Τετάρτη 28 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

Give away what you need the most

What is it that you need the most?

Right now,what do you need the most?What is your heart,mind or body longing for?

Are you hungry,in need of food?

Are you broke,in desperate need of money?

Are you out of work,looking for a job?

Are you single and looking for love ?

Are you depressed and you need some happiness and cheering up?

Are you lonely and you long for friends and some good company?

Are you scared and you need security and peace of mind?

Are you surrounded by inconsiderate jerks and you'd really appreciate some sympathy and understanding?

Come on,what is it that you need the most right now,at this moment?What does your heart tell you?Maybe it's more than one thing that you need.But for the time being,let's just concentrate on the one that you need the most.Take your time to think about it.

Ready?Have you decided on the thing you need the most at the moment?

Here's mine:What I need the most is strength.

Of course,I need many more things,like,I'm desperate for more sleep and rest,I need  my peace of mind back,I need a bigger home,did I mention I need more peace of mind,more money of course (is there enough of it ever??),more inspiration,more free time,more exercise,more help at home,a terrific head teacher to replace the one that left my school, more understanding from people around me,better marketing skills,more drive and determination etc.

But what I need the most  at the moment is strength

How about you?

What are you in dire need of?

Here's an idea for you:

You must give to the world what you need the most,to heal your ailing world and restore the balance!

Here's another idea for you:

-The reason why you do not have enough of what you need the most,is beause you do not give enough of it away!


You cannot get something for nothing.First you give,then you get.It's as simple as that.

The problem is,we are all impatient 5-year-olds when it comes to getting things in life;we want instant gratification!We want stuff and we want it now!We do not want to give first.We believe life owes us.Well,of course life owes us everything,but there are certain laws at work in our reality that are simply too powerful to ignore.I may not believe in gravity,but the collective reality consciousness does.So unless I am strong enough spiritually,I am bound by the law of gravity,whether I believe in it or not.There are other similar spiritual laws and this is one of them:


No giving,no getting!

If you give a little,you'll get a little.If you give enough,you'll get enough.If you give in abundance,you'll get rewarded in abundance.

So actually,you don't have enough of something because you do not give enough.

-You don't have enough money because you do not give enough money and what money represents(namely,value) away.You do not give enough money and value to the world,that's why you do not get enough back.

-You do not have enough love in your life simply because
you do not give enough of it away.(a WORD OF WARNING here:we all believe that we are loving people,but actions speak louder than words,you know)

-You do not have just about any quality or trait because you do not give enough of it to the world.

I am lacking in strength because I do not give enough of it away.I feel weak and helpless to such a degree that I sometimes freeze with fear or feelings of inadequacy and I just cannot accomplish even the simplest of tasks.And since our body is the mirror of our soul,my body reflects that perfectly.I am anaemic,I feel weak and drained very often and it takes all I have to get my body to act like the vibrant,lively Eirini of my higher self.

Why am I lacking in strength?

Yeap,you've guessed it,because I do not give enough of it away.I am too good at giving sympathy,understanding and,occasionally,at feeding other people's bullshit.But strength?No,I don't do strength(or at least I didn't use to).But hey,I've started working on it!Even my Facebook posts are now geared towards empowering people.So I've actually started getting a lot of strength back,to the point of becoming unrecognisable to some...

Try giving away what you desire the most.Give it away freely,give it in abundance,without waiting for anything in return.

Do it as an experiment and see what happens.Keep at it,say,for a couple of weeks or longer.Just give away what you desire most.

Because I am you and you are me.What I give to you,I give to myself and vice versa.

Thank you for receiving my present to you on my behalf!

Love,peace and generous giving


photos from here

Τρίτη 27 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

Guest post:Η περιγραφη του κωλογερου

Το αρθρο ειναι απο το blog του φιλου και συν-blogger Νικου.Τι ωραια που τα λεει,ομως!Αν ειστε ή ετοιμαζεστε να γινετε κωλογεροι(ή κωλογριες,ισχυει και για το θηλυκο γενος,μη κοιτατε που αγαπαει το φυλο μας και δε μας τα χωνει),μη φοβαστε,υπαρχει ελπις!Μετα τη συνειδητοποιηση,ολο και καποια αλλαγη προς το καλυτερο θα επελθει.Και μη μασατε με την ηλικια,υποκειμενικο ειναι το οριο,στο μυαλο και στην καρδια ειναι η διαφορά...

περιγραφή του κωλόγερου

[σας προειδοποιώ πως ολόκληρο αυτό το ποστ είναι μια βλακεία. το βασικό νόημα μου ήρθε όταν ήμουν άρρωστος με πυρετό. ο πυρετός με κάνει είτε πολύ έξυπνο, είτε πολύ ηλίθιο. μέχρι τώρα δεν έτυχε ποτέ να με κάνει έξυπνο. γι' αυτό, αν προσβληθείτε από το ποστ, μη στεναχωρηθείτε καθώς το κείμενο είναι επηρεασμένο από τη μαστούρα του πυρετού, ΑΡΑ είναι λάθος] 

οι άντρες γίνονται κωλόγεροι στα 30. οι γυναίκες γίνονται κωλόγριες στα 80. 

αυτό είναι δεδομένο εξ' αρχής, οπότε βγάλτε το ΣΚΑΣΜΟ και προχωράμε παρακάτω.

πότε γίνεται κάποιος κωλόγερος; όταν γίνεται 'γνώστης'. όταν νομίζει ότι έχει βρει πλέον τη βέλτιστη λύση του Σύμπαντος και ότι καλά θα κάνει η ανθρωπότητα να κάτσει και να ακούσει τις καταπληκτικές απόψεις του για να σωθεί. θηλυκοί 'γνώστες' δεν έχουν παρατηρηθεί μέχρι σήμερα.

γιατί, όμως, να γίνει κωλόγερος στα 30; δεν είναι πολύ νωρίς; 
ΟΧΙ. είναι η ηλικία όπου έρχεται ο μεγάλος πανικός για το μέλλον, η τελειωτική αποσύνδεση με την παιδική ηλικία και η τελική 'ωρίμανση' του χαρακτήρα. 
η ωρίμανση ενός ατόμου είναι η πιο σημαντική παγίδα. επιφανειακά φαίνεται να κάνει πιο ευτυχισμένο το άτομο, πιο σοβαρό και επιτέλους έτοιμο να ζήσει. στην πραγματικότητα, ωρίμανση είναι η απόφαση ενός ατόμου ότι φοβάται να πεθάνει.

πώς ξεχωρίζουμε ένα κωλόγερο από το πλήθος; 

καταρχήν, είναι 30 χρονών ή μεγαλύτερος. αυτό είναι στάνταρ.

δεύτερον, είναι αυτός που πάντα 'ξέρει'. ακριβώς όπως ο Ανδρέας Μικρούτσικος. οποιοδήποτε κι αν είναι το θέμα, από το αν η Τζούλια είχε πάρει κοκαΐνη την ώρα που γύριζε το πρώτο της dvd μέχρι και το τί συμβαίνει στην άλλη άκρη μιας μαύρης τρύπας. ο κωλόγερος πάντα ξέρει. είναι γνώστης. αυτός είναι απαράβατος κανόνας. 

τρίτον! είναι αυτός που χάρη στο καταπληκτικό μυαλό των γονιών του έχει σχηματίσει ένα υπέροχο όνειρο για τη ζωή του: μια καλή δουλειά με λεφτά, ένα ωραίο μεγάλο σπίτι, μια όμορφη γυναίκα (διότι η ομορφιά της είναι το κριτήριο για να περάσει ολόκληρη την υπόλοιπη ζωή του δίπλα της) κι ένα ακριβό μεγάλο αυτοκίνητο. όταν τα αποκτήσει αυτά, θα είναι πλέον ευτυχισμένος.

τέταρτον, οι πίπες. όχι οι κανονικές, που μπαίνουν στο στόμα, αλλά οι άλλες, που βγαίνουν από το στόμα. έχοντας υπόψιν σας το συνδυασμό του δεύτερου και τρίτου λόγου, σκεφτείτε πόσο εύκολο είναι το να πετάει πίπες ένα τέτοιο άτομο. 
καθώς γνωρίζει τα πάντα για τη Γη, το Σύμπαν, τη Τζούλια, την Apple, την πολιτική και όλοι οι άλλοι είναι βλάκες, νιώθει απολύτως ασφαλής πως δε χρειάζεται πια να σκέφτεται πριν μιλήσει. είναι θεός ανάμεσα σε ανθρώπους. κάθε φράση που λέει είναι γραμμένη σε κάποιου είδους Αγία Γραφή η οποία περιστρέφεται γύρω από εκείνον.

πέμπτον, τα γυαλιά που φοράει θέλει να τα βάλει και στους άλλους. από μικρή ηλικία, το περιβάλλον του (που συνήθως είναι οι γονείς) τού φόρεσε γυαλιά και του είπανε πως μέσα από εκείνα θα βλέπει τον κόσμο και πως αν τολμήσει να τα βγάλει θα πεθάνει
και, μια οι γονείς είναι ανώτεροι από θεοί για τα μικρά παιδιά, εκείνος τους πίστεψε και, εκτός από το ότι δε τολμάει να βγάλει τα γυαλιά του, αγωνίζεται να τα φορέσει και στους άλλους ώστε να νιώσει καλύτερα, επειδή δε τολμάει να πιστέψει ότι έχει πέσει θύμα των γονιών του.

πέντε βασικές ιδιότητες.

τώρα, συνδυάστε όλες τις ιδιότητες μαζί. σκεφτείτε το είδος της ζωής που έχει κάνει ένα τέτοιο άτομο. τις συνέπειες αυτής της ζωής, λοιπόν, τις εκτονώνει στα παιδιά του. 
αν ο ίδιος έχει περάσει δύσκολα χρόνια και με κόπο έχει καταφέρει να φτιάξει τη ζωή του, τότε μην τυχόν και τολμήσει να έχει και απαιτήσεις το κωλοπαίδι του! θα κάτσει και θα τραβήξει τα ίδια που έπαθε κι εκείνος, για να μάθει άλλη φορά. γι' αυτό δε το γέννησε άλλωστε; για να αποτύχει στη ζωή του με τον ίδιο τρόπο που απέτυχε κι εκείνος;

έτσι ξεχωρίζετε ένα κωλόγερο. να θυμάστε πάντα την ηλικία των 30. όσοι είναι έτσι αλλά είναι μικρότεροι από 30, έχουν την ευκαιρία να αλλάξουν. σε 2.5 χρόνια θα είμαι κι εγώ 30 χρονών και τρέμω μήπως καταντήσω έτσι. αν συμβεί αυτό, σας δίνω την άδεια να με πυροβολήσετε ανάμεσα στα μάτια!

ορίστε, πρόλαβα και τα είπα πριν γίνω 30!

όποιος πει ότι "ναι καλά όλα αυτά που λες αλλά δεν έχεις δικά σου παιδιά και στη θεωρία όλοι καλά τα λέτε" είναι καταπληκτικό που κατάφερε και διάβασε μέχρι και αυτή τη γραμμή, αλλά παραμένει βλαμμένος. 

γονείς, μην γίνεστε βλάκες. τα παιδιά δε τα φέρατε στον κόσμο για να ζήσουν τη δική σας ζωή. αν θέλετε να ζήσουν τη δική σας ζωή, τότε κάντε πρώτα μια συμφωνία με το διάβολο και κανονίστε ότι, στην ώρα του θανάτου τους, θα πεθάνετε εσείς στη θέση τους.

τα παιδιά σας δεν είναι δικά σας. δικό σας είναι το σπίτι, το αμάξι, ο δονητής για την ώρα του DP και το μέλλον σας. όχι τα παιδιά σας

The Greece that you know VS. The Greece that is

This is a guest post from an American who is living in Greece and is married to a Greek.
Christopher is also a teacher in my school LEXIS and a great inspiration to me.This is an excerpt from the first part of his ebook ''Sticking the Knife to the Bone''(Το μαχαιρι στο κοκαλο, η ελληνικη μεταφραση εδω).

Warning:If you are easily offended by vulgarities or you have idealised everything Greek,Christopher's post is not for you.Go read something else from my blog...

In his own words from his book:

''What the fuck is this Greek way anyway? I know what a lot of people are thinking, “Well if you hate the way things are here so much, why don't you just leave?” I know people out there are thinking that because my wife said that to me several times. The reason I don't leave is because I love and have hope for Greece and Greece's future. The reason I love and have hope for Greece comes from the COOL Greek people. When a Greek is beautiful, and I'm speaking about inner-beauty here, they are very beautiful. When they are ugly, they are very ugly.
Like I said before, this book is about the prevailing culture, not the wonderful, beautiful times that I had here with certain individual people, because those times are few and far between.
We need to shed the past so we can become like the Greeks of the past, with the benefits of the present. I feel myself to be more like the Greeks of antiquity than I see the Greeks of now to be, I hope, I dream, I build, I act. We need a GREEK RENAISSANCE! Greece used to be the light of the world. The world looked to Greece for the future. It could be again but only if we work for it. ''

I have been working on this book for a while now and I've found that writing this introduction has been the hardest part. I think I've written 4 or 5 different versions of it so far. I think that I finally got it right, with the help of those that love me the most. With my first rough draft I was thinking about plagiarizing one of my favorite comedians Carlos Mencia by saying “I would like to start this off by apologizing to all the people that I am about to thoroughly offend.”. Now, I don't want to do that. Really, I don't want to offend anyone but if you get offended, go fuck yourself. Think about it, you can only be offended by the truth. If you don't get offended then I'm not talking about you. So since I'm not going to start with a joke reference I'll start off with a warning. This book isn't a remedial class text book. It isn't written at an elementary school level. Even if you are smarter then a 10 year old that doesn't mean that you'll be able to understand this book. I will not dumb down this book for your stupid ass, so if you're a fucking quad (I'll be explaining what quads are later) I recommend you find a smart, cool friend to help you catch up so we can all move on and evolve as a species together.
Now for you anal fucks out there that only care about surface appearances instead of knowledge. I'll now give you a list of the words and frequency used that you will probably find vulgar, that way you can get over them and move on to the knowledge part.
Fuck: 137
Shit: 110
Pussy: 6
Quad: 60
Dick: 1
Damn: 14
Ass: 8
P.A.O.K.: 1
Well, where to begin? Mr. Baggins says to begin at the beginning. I'll go a little before that though. I'll start with a choice I made a few years ago. That choice was, “Fuck this shit!”. I was a solider for the American Military, off and on for 11 years. The last duty station I was in was the Iraqi Theater of the Terror Wars. As most everyone can guess, I saw and took part in a lot of human ugliness. I will not be getting into that though, that's not the point of this book anyway. The point of this book is why I joined the military in the first place.
One night in Iraq, after going through what I can only call hell. I made that choice, fuck this shit. I sat down at my desk beside my rack and proceeded to write down on little slips of paper, the names of all the countries I could think of. I put them all in a hat, mixed them up, pulled out one slip of paper and it said Greece. That's how I decided to move to Greece.
I was very thoughtful when I saw that piece of paper. Like most Americans, I have a hard on for ancient Greek culture. If you don't believe that Americans have a hard on for ancient Greek culture just look at where all the best movies about Greece comes from. Well, except for My Big Fat Greek Wedding or My Life in Ruins but the others are pretty good and they all come from the U.S.. However that's just Hollywood, so nothing about reality. So I thought that it might be a good idea to meet a Greek so I could learn what modern Greek life is like. During my free time I was on the internet trying to meet people. That was how I met the woman who would later become my wife.
As I sit here writing, it's the 4th of July 2011. It's three years later from the time I first moved here. My wife tried to explain Greek life to me before I came here, but WOW, that didn't come close to preparing me for what I found when I came here. Needless to say, all my dreams and ideas about Greek culture was smashed to hell within the first few weeks of living here. So you can imagine what I feel now after 3 years. Right now I just have that one question on my mind. WHAT THE FUCK?


I am personally amazed that anyone here in Greece gets married or has children. To start off with, just walking around anywhere in this country, whenever you see a group of people walking around, the groups are predominately same sex groups. Of course there are exceptions but usually just same sex groups. If you go to a club you'll see the same thing, same sex groups and I see the strangest things going on. A group of men will be sitting at a table or up at the bar. They will watch a group of women walk by and just stare at them. After the women pass by, they will turn back and smile at each other then start talking about what they would do with a woman like that. A group of women will do pretty much the same thing, except for the last part. It's just as strange though. Men at the end, turn, smile then talk. Women however, when the group of men pass by they turn to each other and then immediately shout out this God awful shrieking laugh, like someone bent all of them over and dropped a vibrating ice cube down the back of their pants. See, what did I tell you? Strangest shit ever! I can't understand this at all. If you find someone attractive, why wouldn't you want to go and speak with them?
I'll now tell you how we do things in the U.S. and hopefully it will help you out. We do have many ways, everything from meeting people online to being set up on a blind date by family or friends, but I'll just teach you the most popular way. So, get out your highlighters so you can mark this part for future reference. I will be teaching this from the male perspective, well because I am a guy but don't worry. This advice will work for women as well. The setting is in a bar. You look around the bar and see a beautiful woman.
Step 1- If you are with friends say “Excuse me please but I just saw a woman that I want
to meet.” (if you are alone ignore this step)
Step 2- Walk up to her.
Step 3- Say “Hello my name is insert name here.” (if she is with friends greet them as well)
Step 4- Ask “May I join you for a minute?” (if she is with friends look at the friends
after you ask her that to show them you think what they think maters to you)
Step 5a she says yes- Say “Thank you.” “I was looking around the bar when I was struck
by your beauty, so I wanted to come over to meet and talk to you to
see if your heart and mind is as beautiful as your face and body.”
Step 5b she says no- Don't say the “Thank you.” part but continue with the rest of the
line. After you finish the line say “However you're not interested in
me.” “I apologize for disrupting your night.” “Have a good night.”. Then walk away.
There, nothing more difficult than that. Meeting a woman (or a man, like I said this plan will work for women as well) in 5 easy steps.
I gave that advice and now I am back to that all consuming question; WHAT THE FUCK?! Greeks can take what should be the simplest thing and turn it into a complicated process, in your heads before you even start to try. Tell me what is more simple than attraction. It's something that almost everyone on this planet experiences. Men want women, women want men, fags want each other. Its a universal thing. Everyone wants that personal connection. Everyone loves fucking. Being one with a fellow human being even for just a night is desired by everyone. So why take what everyone loves and turn it into something complicated?
I know that a lot of you Greeks may not believe this but it is possible for women and men to be friends and no fucking going on. Its true, really really. “Really really?” Really really! I'll tell you a couple of stories about this subject and it shows again how Greeks can take something so simple and turn it into something complicated. On with the stories now.
I was at a bar here in Σέρρες, with a couple of buddies one other guy and the cousin of one of my buddy's girlfriend. The cousin I should say is a woman. The rest of the group were guys. I didn't notice what was going on in my mind at the time but I noticed after I had left. The thing I noticed was that we were four dudes and one chick all together. That isn't unusual in itself but the unusual thing was that she was drunk as hell. Everything was cool, I loved it. We were just five people, chilling out together and enjoying each others company without any complications. That was the first time that happened to me here in Greece. I've been out in mixed company before but the girls I was with never got drunk in public, not even with friends. I heard stories that no Greek woman would do something like that because she would be afraid of what others would say about her. When I say “say about her”, I mean in that fucking petty gossipy way that people talk about each other here. Gossip jeez, that will be covered later. Hell, I could probably write another book just on how Greeks gossip.
The second story is, I have a friend who is a married woman. She isn't happily married though, she wants a divorce and she is working to make that happen. I can't blame her. I met her husband several times and its hard for me to see why she married him in the first place. The thing I want to get at though with this story is that he is using me as an excuse. He has been going around to all her family and saying that his wife and I are fucking. He is putting stress on her, their kids and her family. No stress on me though, just because of the way I take things. I don't take bullshit to heart. “Why?” you may ask, its because it's just that, bullshit. The only thing that makes me upset with this man is what he is doing to her family.
It's possible for men and women to be friends and no fucking going on. If you only count people that are the same sex you are as your friends then you are denying yourself the opportunity to develop a deeper understanding of half of the population.

I am only speaking of generalities here. I know that what I speak of isn't the case for all individuals. I have found, what I feel are the prevailing values here in Greece and I speak about them. And yes you guessed it, I ask that all consuming question. “WHAT THE FUCK?”
Men here feel that the only thing women are on this planet for, is for fucking, continuing the progeny and taking care of the house. Women here feel that the only thing men are on this planet for, is for fucking, continuing the progeny and providing money for the house. Whenever someone tries to step out of those predefined roles there is hell to pay. If a man wants to work in the house the woman will yell at him and say he is doing everything wrong. If a woman wants to go outside the house and work then the man will yell at her and tell her that she is incapable of working outside the house before she even tries.
That last paragraph was for the people who are unhappy and want to do something different and how the spouse or mate will treat them. I know the opposite is out there too. That there are couples that love that idea. That there are women that want nothing more than to take care of the house and kids. That there are men out there who want nothing more than to work for money to provide for the house and kids. I will not be speaking about them though because if they are happy like that and they found someone else to share that way of life with, I am happy for them and I understand their desire to be happy. It's only when people are unhappy and they keep doing the same thing again and again because of what others will think of them, while they have the chance to change their situation, that's what makes me ask, WHAT THE FUCK?
What I do; I like to work outside and inside the house. I know what some of you traditionally minded Greeks are thinking. “Wait a minute, you work outside and inside the house.” “But you said that you were married, doesn’t she take care of the house?” Yes she does. However, we consider a marriage to be a union. We share everything, and when I say everything that is exactly what I mean. Neither my wife or I do anything that we don't want to do. We take care of each other and our house because we want to. I love to cook. I also clean, iron and sow up clothing. Everything that a traditionally minded Greek would say is woman's work, I do. The only thing that a woman does that I don't is bleed for a few days a month or get pregnant. This sexism bullshit has got to go. Damn dudes, I fucking hate it when I do something that is considered to be woman's work and a woman says “bravo” like I did something spectacular. Don't fucking patronize me. Work is work no mater where the location is. I also have this little old annoying lady that lives just above me and she is a peeping tom and a gossip. Whenever she comes out to her balcony she looks into my apartment to see what is going on. One day I was ironing in front of the window and I looked up to find her starring down at me with this “holy shit” look on her face. Like she was thinking “Damn a man doing woman's work!”. I have many such stories but I think you get my point.


WOW gossip, what to say about that. I think that gossip is the most fucked up forms of communication there is. Damn, and people here treat it like its a sport. Football is the most popular sport here in Greece with gossip a close second. It makes me ask, where are peoples priorities. Why are people lacking so much in their own lives that they need to talk so much shit about an others life. I remember when I first came to Greece, that there were more gossip news programs on TV than there were regular news programs. That's also very fucked up.
I'm happy to know that at least one Greek agrees with me on this subject. A man named Αλκιβιάδης a few years ago went out and bought a huge dog and then cut off its tail. His friends came up to him and said that everyone was gossiping about his dog's tail. Αλκιβιάδης told his friends that this is exactly what he wanted, for all the people in Αθηνα to be gossiping about his dog's tail and leave him in peace.
Let's break this topic down a bit. I will use an Americanism here, well because I was an American and it makes things easier on me to keep things straight in my own head. The Americanism is, Don't hate the player hate the game. What that means is, don't hate the people that succeed in this life, hate the life that you don't succeed in. We call people that do hate the players, haters. That is what a gossip is, a hater. They're haters because when ever they talk about someone they're talking shit. If they were speaking good stuff then it would just be talking. So now, since you know my frame of mind, I'll just call gossips what they are, haters. They didn't used to be haters. No one was born a hater. They became haters. They are people that used to want good stuff. They used to dream, hope, plan and work for good stuff. For whatever reason good stuff didn't happen for them. Now they hate good stuff and the people that have good stuff.
I don't understand the pettiness of of your bullshit you fucking haters. Don't talk bad about the players, they are the ones that are out and accomplishing things. Hell, if I was a hater I would go find what ever player that would be willing and ask them to mentor my little hating ass, so hopefully I could be a player one day myself. That's what we players do. We just don't sit down hating. We appreciate good shit and we talk to each other so we can figure out how we can be bigger successes.
If you are a player and you have people hating you don't be disheartened. Think about it, they are hating you because you have success in your life. So use these fucking haters as a gauge of your success. If you have 10 haters now you need to figure out how to get 15 of those fuckers in a month. That way you can see how you are progressing through the game.
Get rid of this jealousy bullshit please. It serves absolutely no purpose. Oh sorry, I should explain that I am talking about relationship jealousy here. The reason it serves no purpose is because if someone gives you a reason to feel jealousy then they are not dedicated to you in the first place. People get jealous here for the stupidest things anyway.
Time for the examples. If someone finds the person that you are with attractive, then take it for what it is, a complement. I mean look at it logically, you found the person you're with attractive, so why do you think that others shouldn't find that person attractive. When my wife and I lived in Nea Mihaniona, we went up to Makro up in Thessaloniki every once and a while, for our shopping. One time, my wife started to take the cart up to the security, to get the cart checked, while I was still paying the bill. As she was up with the guard, he started to flirt with her. I didn't get jealous at all. I took it as a complement. I have someone that he wanted, I felt happy and proud.
The stupidest things to become jealous over, doesn't even need to involve flirting. I had a buddy who was a bartender when I knew her. One night, when I was out and about walking by some clubs in Θεσσαλονίκη , I went into the bar she worked at, to see her. As always we chilled out talking having a good time. Later she had to go to the kitchen to do some dishes, which left me at the bar. After some time went by, I thought of something that was relevant to the conversation that we were having, so I went back to the kitchen to tell her. Right after me a guy came back to the kitchen and just stared at me. What the fuck? I said hi to him, I tried to be sociable, I didn't know what the fuck was going on. She told me that he was her boyfriend and he is very jealous. Jealous over what, that someone wants to talk with her.
I even know of some guys that go out with their girlfriends or wives, when they go to look for a job and submit CVs. As if they didn't, their wives or girlfriends would would be out fucking in the streets. Damn dudes if I owned a business and someone needed a fucking escort to come apply for a job, before they even start to talk to me, I would tell them not to bother. If you aren't independent enough to apply for a job alone then, I don't want to hire you.
This is why I'm saying that jealousy serves no purpose. OK, here we go, If the person you are with is dedicated to you, then they will handle things themselves. Of course people will always flirt with the person you're with, but they will say “Thank you for the compliment but I am with somebody.”. If the person that you are with accepts the flirting and starts flirting themselves, they aren't really with you in the first place. So, as you can see right there, jealousy serves no purpose, so drop the bullshit.

Κυριακή 25 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

Quote-picture of the day

Eat some candy today,my sweet babies,it's good for the soul!

Φατε το γλυκακι σας σημερα γλυκα μου παιδια!Κανει καλο στην ψυχη!

Σάββατο 24 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

Liberate yourself through forgiveness

''Words are tears that have been written down. Tears are words that need to be shed. Without them, joy loses all its brilliance and sadness has no ending.Thank you, then, for your tears.''

 The Prayer

''The tears I shed, I forgive.
The suffering and disappointments, I forgive.
The betrayals and lies, I forgive.
The slandering and scheming, I forgive.
The hatred and persecution, I forgive.
The shattered dreams, I forgive.
The dead hopes, I forgive.
The disaffection and jealousy, I forgive.
The indifference and ill will, I forgive.
The injustice in the name of justice, I forgive.
The anger and mistreatment, I forgive.
The neglect and oblivion, I forgive.
The world with all its evil, I forgive.''
 ‎''I will be able to love above all discontentment.
To give even when I am stripped of everything.
To work happily even when I find myself in the midst of all obstacles.
To dry tears even when I am still crying.
To believe even when I am discredited. ''

- ''I am liberated from hatred by means of forgiveness and love.I understand that suffering, when it cannot be avoided, helps me to advance towards glory.''

All quotes from Paulo Coelho

                                                 Love,peace and forgiveness

                                                       photos from here

How to stay happy and positive in a grim,unhappy world

“Now; I express to you, you create ALL of your reality. You create every moment of your reality – every breath, every thought, every emotion, every feeling, every action, every encounter. Every interaction of your reality – every circumstance and every ‘thing’ within your reality – is created by yourself.

“No other individual, no circumstance, no essence, no element of consciousness may be creating any aspect of your reality for you. This is an intrusive action, and consciousness and essences are not intrusive. This is an intrinsic quality of consciousness, to not be intrusive. Therefore, NO element of your reality may be created by any other expression outside of yourself.
“Now; you create the illusion within your beliefs that outside influences create aspects of your reality, but in actuality, you ALWAYS hold choices.”

 From the Elias Forum

Stop buying into the belief that you are the victim of outside influences.If you find yourself experiencing a grim reality that is a shared reality for the rest of the world as well,then you have allowed yourself to buy into that mass belief system and you have been instantly transported into the grim realm of all the individuals that believe and operate within that reality. 

In other words,if you believe that we are going through tough times,you harmonise first your thoughts and emotions and then your actions with the reality of ''tough times''.You form connections with people,things,actions and situations that help you become part of that grim reality.You keep sinking deeper and deeper into it,until your focus is so intently transfixed on this reality that it will take a miracle for you to defocus and escape.

Please stop focusing on this kind of grim reality.It is an epidemic,a highly catching virus,perpetuated by the media and all those affected by it.Stay strong and healthy,stay unaffected so that you can help others back to health and sanity.

How can you stay healthy and unaffected?

Simple really.It's a two-part process.

First,do not try to avoid thinking about this grim reality we are talking about.Everything you resist,persists and becomes stronger,because your subconscious keep focusing on it,even if your conscious self doesn't,in an attempt to solve this conflict for you.Controlling your subconscious is extremely difficult,if not impossible.Don't attempt it,unless you are a master of the kind.Instead,each time you find yourself worrying about your grim reality,pose for a second,acknowledge your fears and then play with them!If we face our fears and worries head on,fully experiencing them as a probability without dreading them,then they lose their power over us.It's facing our deamons.If we avoid them,they keep chasing us.We may choose to ignore them,but they are still there,keeping us in a state of chronic stress.

For example,I am worried about not being able to pay my morgage,taxes etc.I pause,face my fears and then play with them.Here's how;what's gonna happen if I won't be able to pay my morgage?Worst case scenario,I'll end up losing my home.So what?Then I'll probably rent a new place.Which means I may be able to look for a better place,with a garden,which the kids and the dogs are gonna love!That's cool!We'd love that!Or we may live in a caravan,or a train carriage or any combination of cool things.Now that would be an adventure and fun!And you can do that with everything you are scared of.

So the first part is actually facing your fears head on and then contemplating their becoming a reality without dreading them.Think of life in general as fun.No matter what you choose to experience in the future,it's gonna be alright and it's gonna be fun.If you operate through this mindset,your fears will melt away before your very eyes.Do not omit this first crucial part of disengaging from the mass reality.If you omit it,the second part won't work at all,or will work only partially.

Alright,on to the next part.The second part of disengaging from mass reality is actually focusing on fun and pleasure.Do what feels like fun.Forget how mass hysteria-the deadly virus we are talking about-urges you to focus on the 'grim reality' of the world.They keep brainwashing you into believing that if you focus on it,you might be able to do something about it.THAT'S NOT TRUE!!!!We cannot solve anything from a place of fear,it is simply impossible,or a supernatural feat at best,an uphill struggle.It's a guaranteed way to get you infected and deeply sunk into the reality of all those affected by the terror and unhappiness epidemic.

Instead,stay strong and healthy by focusing on fun,fun,fun.Fun does not necessarily mean spending money or looking for extraordinary experiences.Fun and enjoyment is primarily a shift of your focus from the serious and boring to the pleasant and enjoyable.Surely,you can do that!All it takes is a decision at each and every given moment.Choose it.And by the way,I definitely don't mean neglecting our obligations or stop working,doing chores etc because it's not fun.Fun is a state of mind first and foremost and can be incorporated in practically all situations.Be creative,be inventive in finding more ways to have fun.It is crucial for your staying strong in your reality and being unaffected by the grim reality of mass hysteria.

Create your own reality.A happy,radiant reality of your own making.Then invite more and more people to share it and create a similar one for themselves.It's the only way to help our world become a happy place again.You are a warrior,a champion of Happiness.Don't waste another second.Create our happiness reality now!

Peace,light and deliberate reality creation


pictures from here

Πέμπτη 22 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

I love teaching

If I asked you to name your favorite teachers from kindergarten through graduate school, it would be easy to answer,wouldn't it?I bet you still remember those special teachers with fondness.Think about it for a moment.What did they all have in common?That's easy,right?They all loved what they were doing with an unusual passion that other teachers did not share.

I love my job.Always have.I've been dreaming of being a teacher ever since ...for ever!Other girls played house,I played school,teaching,marking homework,etc.I even used to give names to my imaginary students,just as others girls used to give names to their dolls.

I've been teaching for 20 years,ever since I was still a student.In fact,I've never ever worked as anything else other than a teacher.My first job was teaching English in the private school that I myself was tought English.The owner of the school,a very cool lady-still around in business-who also happened to be my teacher,knew how passionate I was about teaching and trusted me with my first classes in her school.Just imagine a 20 year old teaching 15 year olds!Boy,I still have nightmares from the time back then!That experience taught me a great deal about humility,about the importance of developing class management techniques but also about the fact that the most important part of teaching is passion ,which can compensate for a lot of shortcomings in a teacher.

What I mean with passion is simple really and it holds true for just about any and all professions and jobs:it is also what separates the great teachers from the not-so-great.The word is FUN! Good teachers, along with working very hard, almost always have fun with what they are doing.Research does bear out that enthusiasm is a special quality that all great teachers share.And guess what?The more enthusiastic you are about something,the more likely you are to have fun when doing it!

I know that for some people teaching means a dull,uninteresting way to waste your life in a roomful of unrully kids.And I bet that the majority of those who think so are the teachers themselves,who started out as eager and enthusiastic advocates of teaching only to become disillussioned and embittered pretty soon.

Actually,teaching is so much a reflection of life,that it cannot be seperated from life.Teaching means giving of yourself.But you cannot give what you do not have.Your teaching style,your whole teaching experience,is determined by who you are.You simply cannot teach something you are not.What you are in life is what you are as a teacher as well.Your personality shines through in everything you do as a teacher,from explaining a question to disciplining (or not) to correcting homework to establishing rapport to inspiring students.

Get a notepad and do this quick test:what words spring to mind when you think of your job?Write down as much as you can think of.S top only when you run out of things to say.

Here's my list:

Invigoration,energy,excitement ,zeal,zest,encouragement,giving,fun,learning,ideas,enjoyment,creativity,enthusiasm,passion,creativity,sharing,eagerness,originality.

My job is all those things and much,much more.It is my calling.And I feel blessed for doing what I love in life.But also,at the same time,I am aware that ultimetely nobody can teach anything to anyone,unless they want to and are ready for it.A teacher is nothing more than the instrument that God and the students themselves choose,through which they raise their levels of awareness and learning in life.Teaching is nothing more than channeling what God and the students themselves (or rather their higher selves) know it's time for them to lovingly explore and discover within themselves:

Kahlil Gibran puts it so nicely in ''On teaching'':

''No man can reveal to you aught but that which already lies half asleep in the dawning of your knowledge.

The teacher who walks in the shadow of the temple, among his followers, gives not of his wisdom but rather of his faith and his lovingness.

If he is indeed wise he does not bid you enter the house of his wisdom, but rather leads you to the threshold of your own mind.

The astronomer may speak to you of his understanding of space, but he cannot give you his understanding.

The musician may sing to you of the rhythm which is in all space, but he cannot give you the ear which arrests the rhythm nor the voice that echoes it.

And he who is versed in the science of numbers can tell of the regions of weight and measure, but he cannot conduct you thither.

For the vision of one man lends not its wings to another man.

And even as each one of you stands alone in God's knowledge, so must each one of you be alone in his knowledge of God and in his understanding of the earth.'

                                                            Love,peace and learning


                                                             pictures from here

Τρίτη 20 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

Be happy,it's urgent

Be happy!Be happy!

Just because!Just because you are alive,damn it!

Just because you are into life!

Just because you wonna spread happiness around you and see what happiness!

Just because you are not your money problems!You are not an animal in the manger that is being given a smaller than usual ration of fodder and becomes agitated and restless.Stop thinking about money/fodder.YES,GO HUNGRY IF YOU HAVE TO,but stop behaving like an animal in the manger!You are more than the fodder/money that life or circumstances or 'evil people' out there ration out to you.You are a human being,damn it!Rejoice in that!You are closer to angels in spirit,and yet you worry about fodder or absence of it!If you feel like an animal in the manger,don't blame people in power for treating you like you are.

You are not an animal in the manger worrying about fodder/money.You are more powerful than angels,you are a god in apprenticeship!So fulfill your potential .Start right now.Start by deciding to be happy no matter what.Do what you have to do,fight for more if you have to,but never forget that you are just a spirit in disguise.

So be happy,please.Do everything with a happy heart,the mandane and the spiritual,the everyday and the extraordinary.Rise above your petty concerns,little or big worries.Be happy and the world will feel it.Being happy is the most powerful,magical,awsome thing you can do for our ailing world at the moment.Because happiness,like misery,is highly catching and contagious.So be happy and spread anonymous blessings to the world!

Be happy and help heal our world!

                                                         Love,peace and happiness


                                                               photos from here

Σάββατο 17 Σεπτεμβρίου 2011

My love story

(If you are as hopeless a romantic as I was back then,you might wonna read my love story listening to this amazing romantic Disney love song)

My love story begins-of course- a long long time ago,once upon my youth.In fact,it begun on a fine September day exactly 23 years ago.

Picture me as a college girl in my freshman year .

So very young at 17,so very insecure-because I had spent my teenage years as an ugly duckling-,so very innocent-coming from a very religious background- and so severely shortsighteed,but too vain to wear glasses exept when deemed absolutely necessary for my own and other people's safety (my best purchase ever a few months later: a pair of contact lenses).

It's my very first day on campus.I feel kinda lost but oh,so excited and happy!After all,it's what I've always dreamed of studying: ancient and modern greek studies.(A note for non-Greek readers:college education is free in my country,but -at least back in my time-you had to go through a hell of studying to get there in the first place).An auditorium full of young students as excited and eager as myself.Our very first lecture,linguistics.A young-ish professor explaining how we only think in words,how in fact rational thought is impossible without words and language,according to the famous father of Linguistics,Saussure.

I have an objection and I tell him about it,refering to all those times that the thought has formed into our mind but we can't voice it,it's just on the tip of our tongue.He goes on to explain his theories and at that moment a young man I'm too short-sighted to notice turns around to have a look at me and likes what he sees more than the question he thought was clever.So he approaches me during the break.His face looks slightly familiar.Good looking,thoughtful,dark eyes.He politely asks for my notes (you couldn't possibly pass the class without notetaking back then),because he has to attend another lecture scheduled at the same time.

Puzzled,I ask why my notes,out of an auditorium full of students.He says:

-''Because you made the cleverest question today,which means you're bright and obviously a great student''. He hesitates.Then he adds" And because you have really beautiful eyes too''.

His honesty and spontaneity is heart warming;he has won me over.

Over the next days and weeks we get to meet each other regularly,always on campus,and I start appreciating his humor,wealth of knowledge (he speaks five languages already!!) and warmth.I am off-standish by nature with people I don't know or trust,(my defence mechanism) but he's so open and warm hearted and plus he seems to know practically everyone on campus,students and professors alike,he's a brilliant student,at the very top of his year,seems much more mature than most students around there-he's 5 years older than me,he served 2 years in the army before he got into college-,so before long I'm smitten and head over hills in love.

So he asks  me out on a date.And then the realisation hits me;the reason why his face looked so familiar on the very first day we met was because I had seen it before in a kind of vision a year or so ago!I was up on a terrace back then(,I love being someplace high up  on a building and contemplating) and suddenly,totally out of the blue,as if in a dream,I saw this face of a young man and I instantly knew he was the man I'd marry one day.I shook it off as ridiculous,but the picture had stayed with me

As soon as I realized that the man in my vision was George,the man I had fallen in love with,I froze with fear.The omen was too stong and I felt resistant and rebellious.I mean,I was too young to think about marriage.For the first time in my life,I was really free and living away from home.Life seemed exciting and full of possibilities.I wanted to experience them all!It was too soon for marriage stuff.And anyway,I started doubting my vision,resenting it,trying to convince myself that my mind was playing nasty tricks on me.What kind of a girl would fall for the very first man that spoke to her on her very first day on campus?

So on that very first date of ours,while I was insanely happy to be with him,I was anxious and rebellious at the same time.He asks me if I'd like to be his girlfriend and I say no;the feelings I have for him are too much,I can't handle it,I have to go have a life and a few experiences of my own first...Plus,I thought I could always have him if it was meant to be.

So friends we stay.But a curious thing happens.I get to meet many interesting men,younger and older,from all walks of life,students or not,but after one or a couple of dates,I lose interest in them.I find them too boring,too predictable,too uninspiring or too cold.Because I keep comparing them to George,my George.Who is the man of my dreams.And whom I  rejected because I was too scared of the intensity of my feelings.

Then he disappears from my life.I used to bump at him all the time at campus,but suddenly he is no longer to be found.All I have is an address in Athens,his hometown.I send him a card,but he never answered that.He was off to Bologna,Italy,for more studies.A year passes,then two.No news.But instead of forgetting all about him,I am more in love with him than ever.It is stupid and hopeless and I know it and try to fight it as just a fantasy that was never meant to be.But it still goes on.And because of it I refuse to be with anyone else.

Three years after the day I first met him I decide that enough is enough with my girlish fantasies that were never meant to come true and I set out  to get myself a proper boyfriend (I got sick and tired of being a virgin at 20!).So I picked a really nice and handsome young man that I was very attracted to physically(who also happened to be very much in love with me,or so he told me,lol) to initiate me to the physical part of lovemaking.

A month or so after I got my brand new boyfriend(who had already introduced me to his mum and was talking about a future together,again freaking me big time),I was at the campus library,studying.All of a sudden,I got this overwhelming urge to go to the entrance of the building.I resisted it but it was so strong that I obliged,went there and just waited for no reason feeling like a fool for doing so.Then I spot him.Him!George,the love of my life,the man I was pining for for 3 fucking years,the man of my teenage vision,my long-lost George,at last there in the flesh!(I later found out that it was one of the last few times he'd be coming there,because his graduation was imminent)

I wish you could picture this moment,it really was the stuff Hollywood movies are made of,both of us standing a few feet away from each other,students passing to and fro and noize everywhere and we frozen at this moment,looking at each other,trying to remember...I went up to him first.

-''George,is that you?Is that really you?Do you remember me?''

-How could I ever forget you Eirini?''

Yeap,those were exactly the very cheesy lines we exchanged.

I remember thinking at the moment":''By God,I don't care if he's single or not,by there's no way I'll lose him a second time.I swear that he'll be mine by the end of the day''.And that's exactly what I did.By the end of the day I had asked him out.And broken up with my boyfriend (well,sort of),breaking his heart at the same time,which was a very sad thing really,but life is such a bitch and sometimes you can't help hurting people,despite your best intentions.Also,I became as bold and decisive with him this time around as stupid and undecisive I had been 3 years before.I slept with him on our first (or rather second) date and told him staight away that I was madly in love with him for the past 3 years of my life (It was his turn to be spooked by me!)

And so our life together begun...Three years later we were married and I was expecting our first born son(conceived on Valentine's day!)

 And I bet this is where you'd like the fairytale to end with a ..AND THEY LIVED HAPPILY EVER AFTER...

Actually guys,sorry,but this is where the real lifestory begins.Hollywood love stories are fine,exept in real life redemptive moments like mine and George's are always followed by yet again 17 years of communion of hearts,deep true love and friendship,heartache,troubles,hurdles,bliss,happiness,awsome fucking,no fucking at all,four kids,unhappiness,quarrels,loneliness,financial problems,successes,failures,more problems,more happiness,more awsome fucking,jealousy,bitterness,renegotiation of roles,love or absence of it,tears,laughter,joy and all other emotions in between.

After 20 years of being with the same man,I have changed beyond recognition,both physically and mentally/spiritually.But although he lovingly and respectfully`accepts and even likes the changes in my physical self (and of course so do I),the changes in my emotional self are harder or even impossible for him to accept.

I had to rely on myself and my own sources of inner strength to raise our four kids in his frequent absences as a tour guide abroad and I also had to learn how to create from scratch and manage a business of my own.The shy,happy-go-lucky-girl,always optimistic,always ready to serve I used to be,the one that thought she should be subservient to her man out of love,is now replaced by a middle-aged woman who was forced to become tough,strong and self-reliant to cope with the challenges of her life.My appeasing bullshit mechanism is busted.And my husband is of course left wondering what happened to the sweet girl that fell in love with him.He even tries to ascribe my changes to external factors,situations,things or people,because the true reason hurts more.

Well,life happened to me.Same as to anyone else,I guess.Life never lets anyone of us die a virgin.She fucks us all in the end.But she also offers amazing spiritual progress and insights in return for that.I can't and wouldn't exchange my 40 year old self,physical,emotional or mental,for what I used to be 20 years ago!Really,youth is wasted on the young!

I only pray and hope that my husband can see and accept that new reality of me...

And on our 20-year-of-being-together anniversary(and 23 of having met),here's my dedication to him:

Love,peace and acceptance