Σάββατο 28 Φεβρουαρίου 2015

Who am I to write about love?

“Who am I to teach this?

Who am I to write about love/soulmates? I’m no master. I'm a struggling human, like everyone else. Besides, everything has already been said, right? Is what I've got  to write book-worthy? Parts of it are soul-baring. I hate baring my soul to stangers as much as the next person, plus even that can't make it book-worthy. I’m not that good yet. I’m not ready. I need more experience/ time/ recognition/improvement. I don’t want to feign that I am some kind of expert or that I’m some big deal.”

Been struggling with this.
For a long, long long time. Still am.

Sure, I can just say 'I believe, therefore I am''

But that's not good enough. Not for me, or you, for that matter

One way to answer this question is to wallow in shame and self-conciousnes: ''I'm not good enough for this''.

 Another reaction is to pretend I'm better than I am, heighlight my story, my achievements, my whatevers. Do the self-touting thing.

Or  be real. Even more real
And think aloud, in the hopes of inspiring someone else along the way

Most of us lead our lives feeling not good enough.
Not good enough to do this and that..
Not good enough to be creative
Not good enough for what we have in our heart to give
Not enough

So here's my advice to you and me:

Do it anyway
Start pretending you are needed
If you arent needed, the market will tell you, dont worry.

''Oh, but how am I supposed to deal with rejection?''

Like a man. Or a woman
Grow some balls
(or better yet , grow a vagina, it's incredibly more powerful than balls)

Don't take rejection or non-success as a sign of personal failure.The most disempowering belief in the world is feeling like a failure when things don't go your way or fall apart ( take this from someone who lost a successful business of a decade and still survived)

Here's a more powerful belief to concentrate on:

You actually might not have the skills, wisdom, experience or talent to do the work you’re so drawn to do. But here is the thing:

History is full of people who thought they were ready, thought they were invincible and then, because of hybris ( ancient greek notion of excessive pride and confidence) failed blatantly. There are many examples of those whose arrogance led them to their doom .

So we might not be really ready but it’s important to ask ourselves, “ready for what?” Ready to be a guru to the masses? Probably not . Ready to pour your heart on paper and let people be inspired by it? Probably yes . Ready to earn millions? Probaby not (but hey some people out there did that too, so why not you?) Ready to earn royalties from your brainchild? Probably yes.

Often by asking the question “Am I ready for this?”
you mean “I need to be perfect to be ready.”

Ah my friend..


 Not really, not in this plane of existence

But do you have something to offer that could help people?
That could have helped you, if someone else created it?

Then go ahead and create

I know It’s really easy for you to look at other people doing the kind of work you want to  do, people who have already achieved stardom status and compare yourself to them and feel like crap.

I promise you that you are not.

 Don’t compare your start with their middle or finish line.
 It  is a recipe for misery.

Here is what I tell myself each time I post, write etc:
I will focus on creating something that moves my heart, beautiful to my eyes and useful to at least a few. I put my heart into it and let it go. That is more than enough.

And the results?

Tell yoursel that whatever comes  is fine
( again, losing one's business and being broke for what seemed like ages helps you put things into perspective. Like, not caring about end results ever again, not really)

My failures are my lessons , therefore my credentials

“Give up the notion that you must be sure of what you are doing. Instead, surrender to what is real within you, for that alone is sure.” —Baruch Spinoza

Δευτέρα 9 Φεβρουαρίου 2015

Specialising is boring. Dead Boring

She said she'll help me 'rebrand my site'. For free. 
On account of our online friendship.

I'm grateful and eager.

''You have to decide on a subject'', she says. ''Your blog is too generic. Pick up a subject, what you stand for, what you are passionate about, and stick with it. You want people to come to you for a specific reason''

I tell her it makes sense.

''So what do people come to you for?'' she probes further.

I pose to think. 
'Tell me what you love doing on fb and what people like your posts for'', she tries to help me.

The next day I get back to her with a list, as instructed.

It reads:

''I express myself through:
-Delivering happiness and hope
-Raising awareness for important issues
-Inspiring by example
-Making connections and harboring interconnections
-Promoting my work (blogs- ebook)''

''Still too broad, you need to narrow this down,''she insists.
''How about, Sexuality combined with Spirituality, or Eternal Youth of Mind and Soul? Just revolving around a theme...You get the idea...''

Yeah, I got the idea.

Problem is, I dont like that idea.

I cant for the life of me restrict myself to a particular subject for my blog. I simply cant. Even if that means missing on the chance to 'brand' my blog, or me or both, as is usual in blodsphere.

To me, man is a multi-dimensional being.

All of us can do many, many things and also do certain things better than others ( think specialisation). 

But all great discoveries, inventions and breakthroughs in this world were, are, being made by people who do MANY things and are capable of combining many seemingly disparate things and notions. 

Out of those many kinds of things, a sort of cross-breeding happens. 

Let me give you an example. 

When a great musician starts painting, no painter who is simply a mewre painter will ever be able to do the things he/she does. Some of the energy of his music will permeate his work and give him different perspective and insights and cre\ativity. If he/she is passionately in love too, then something of this passionate love will be present in that painting. If a painter is just a painter, the painting will be flat, one-dimensional, without much depth. Maybe technically perfect, but neither inspiring nor awe-inducing, in other words, no great work

This holds true of everything.

Even physical attraction.
Most of us are attracted to types of people physically and emotionally different to us, because nature makes us choose unions by which the children borne will have a variety in their genetic pool and a richer life full of diverse expereiences from both partners.

Everything physical thrives in combining different things.

 Sameness is boring and unproductive.

Yet, how we all crave it. 
To blend in is a deeply ingrained instinct, so we crave assimilation, uniformity, safety. To each their own, we say. Then we yawn and die of boredom. Because safety, specialisation and uniformity are neat and necessary, but so not miracle-inspiring.

Sure, I can have a blog created around a theme( see my
love-a-story.blogspot   thing)

But I cant confide myself to it, It'd dead unispiring, like feeding on the same meal of ideas every day. And when something becomesboring, the flow of ideas stops.

I love trying and learning and writing about many many different and highly unrelated things. That's who I am; and I figure being who I am in my writings is more important than specialising ( also, I'm a tick-head, non-teachable material blogger, as my rebranding expert friend realised :) )

Go try as many things as possible in life. They will all contribute to your energy, each of them making you a bit richer, with a bit more depth and more dimensional

And your work, any kind of work you happen to be doing, creative or other wise, will reflect that. People will pick on that. They will be attracted to your creative efforts. They'll instinctively think ''this is good'' and they'll want some more of the same.

Even if your blog  leaves a lot to be desired ,design and brand-wise 

Τρίτη 3 Φεβρουαρίου 2015

5 Metaphysical Ways to Generate Cash-Real Fast!


Here are 5 super easy, unconventional ways to bring into your life money you really needed yesterday. 

Tried, tested, guaranteed:

1. Clean something in your home or office thoroughly.
Stuck or stagnating energy of mess and dirt in our home drains our cashflow the same way emotions and conflicts tend to drain our immune system and energy circuits. So start cleaning. The dirtier the task, the more spectacular the results. If you think your home is spotless, tackle the mess in hidden clutter-attracting closets, drawers, wardrobes, pantries, you get the picture. Go do on small area. You'll see what I mean real quick.

2. Change a stubborn belief
That one is tricky because there are some beliefs so deeply ingrained in our system we dont even know they are there. So start anywhere. Pick up a belief. Any belief would do. No, I am not talking about catastrophic or negative ones. Evden positive ones (we are not talking about values here, just beliefs, so dont bristle on me ok?). Seeing a thing that you hold dear from a different perspective , makes money pour into your life. Don't know why-though I do have my suspicions- but it is so.

3. Save some money
'You mean, I actually have to save money when I need it the most' ? Yep, that's right. Save some of what you already have, even if it's just a pittance. Put it aside. Don't spend it. Just let it be there. Then wait and see what happens

4. Spend some money
Let the whole damn thing circulate. And trust thaty more is on its way to you

5. House overflowing with money meditation
A very powerful one. Do this incessantly and obsessively for three consecutive days . It works. Real fast