Why You Cant Get No Satisfaction

Greed...
needing more and more..and then some....
we're all guilty
or the syndrome ''I cant get no satisfaction'
wanting something like mad
then, as soon as you have it, you find it too boring
then off you go chasing a new toy

happens to most of us
men excel at it especially when it comes to women

what to think?
science has the answers.

It seems that wanting something and liking something are not necessarily the same areas in our brains.

The 'wanting' system is activated by dopamine, and the 'liking' system is activated by opioids. 

There are enough connections between them that there's a big correlation in their activity, but they are not one and the same and in fact natural activation of the opioids is less common than the dopamine activation. (this could explain weed smoking popularity!)

In other words:

It's relatively hard for a brain to generate pleasure, because it needs to activate different opioid sites together to make you like something more.

On the other hand, it's easier to activate desire, because a brain has several 'wanting' pathways available for the task.

 Sometimes a brain will like the rewards it wants. But other times it just wants them.


So you could go through all that trouble to find or gain a much coveted thing or desire and you'll end up not even being happy. You'll just really really want to keep the wanting' circuit running.

Problem: large chunks of philosophy and economics are based upon wanting and liking being the same thing.

But it isnt.

Wanting is easier on the brain.

Liking is not or at least it's short lived.

Your fucking brain is playing some nasty trick on you, right??

No.

Outsmart your brain.

Learn to like and appreciate and you'll stop your brain's mad dash for accumulating and amassing and wanting more that leaves you dissatisfied , stressed and unhappy..

Appreciate. More.

Start with what you have.

The little or the big, less or more.

Appreciate daily.Give thanks.

Life has always been, is and will be full of shit sometimes.

Dont let your brain fool you into disregarding the good stuff because of the shit part.

Give thanks daily.
For just about everything you could think of.

Form new neural pathways in your mind
Outsmart that stupid brain of yours.

As a side effect, this will keep you young and vibrant in body and soul.

And when the real good stuff comes along, your brain will be so well trained in liking it, that you'll be enjoying it a thousant times more and for much much longer, instead of getting sick and tired of it as soon as you have it.

It's the recipe for a happy life.

Dont Be Yourself, Evolve

contrary to popular belief, (and to what I tell you all the time  here) dont be yourself

Evolve

SOMETIMES OUR SELF CAN BE A PERFECT ASSHOLE


All of us change all the time and not every change is in the right direction. Some of us never get to become better because we're convinced we're all perfecrt already

You are enough, yes
but life is movement
stagnation is old age and ultimately death
changE for the better
in body-by exercising
in mind-by constant learning
in emotions-by exercising positivity and kindness

be your best you

the world needs you

Stories: Up in the Mountain Cabin

Stories..

Up in the Mountain Cabin

To be snowing outside
and the wind howling like it does up there
blowing billows of snowflakes
and to be pitch dark because there aint no street lamps up in the mountains baby
and the fire crackling away
and the wine is red red red and sweet
and the chocolate treats are sweet sweet and chocolatey
and the water up there is tasty because it comes from a special spring
and the cabin is cozy
and the bedcovers are warm
and his smile is warmer
and she feels all warm and cozy inside
as she always does in his presence
and they spend all time there is
talking
eating and drinking
and fucking
and basking in the warmth of each other's presence
content
happy
in love
their love story


και χιονιζει και χιονιζει
κι η αγαπη τους ανθιζει
και η αλεπου χορευει
και ο λυκος αγορευει...

Traditionally I love September

In times gone by I loved September because it was enrollment time for @LEXIS -my school.

Excitement and new plans and tons of marketing and syllabus redesigning and teacher personnel training and a shitload of hard work as new academic year was about to roll in.
And of course a burning desire for successssssss !

Now that there is no more LEXIS my September is less frantic

Mellower,calmer
Practically stress-free
Focus shifted
Less money
Less worries
More free time
More dreams
More time for life and love and loved ones
Same passion for giving and helping and creating

"Hey," a friend who hasn't seen me for a while told me when she bumbed into me the other day.
"You look different. Somehow younger and prettier.
What have you done to your face?"

I'll tell you what I've done to my face.

Peace of mind
And contentment
And re-examining my priorities
And happiness undiluted

That's what's happened to my face
And my life

Which is exactly what I'm wishing for each and everyone of you webamigos!

Keep changing,keep reinventing yourself

Change is ALWAYS a positive force

Always
No exceptions

Even if it doesn't seem so at first

Good for the soul
And the face

Beats Botox anytime

More Respect, Better Sex

A man in a committed relationship probably desires a woman's respect and to be honored by her even more than he wants to have sex with her.

 Yeah, really. That much!

Given a choice between feeling unloved or feeling disrespected, three fourths of men will choose to feel unloved, according to one survey. Three out of four men would rather feel unloved rather than disrespected or inadequate.  If he feels
 disrespected, he feels unloved.


The truth is any man needs his woman's love for him expressed as respect and admiration in the same way that his woman need his love expressed through emotional intimacy and feeling cared for.

Dishonoring a man is a blow to his heart. It says to him, “I don’t love you.”

definition for respect:'' holding in honor or esteem, to pay proper attention, and to show consideration for.''

“But you don’t know my man!” you say. “He can be such a pig-headed idiot sometimes.”

No, I don’t know your man or husband or boyfriend or the details of his pig-headedness ,but I still insist that he deserves and needs your respect.


Please pay attention to my choice of words. Respect does not mean submission.
 A master-slave relationship, where one person has all the power.

Unconditional respect does not imply slavery, fake flattery, submission or unconditional agreement or endorsement, but it does imply that in all things and at all times you are to maintain an atmosphere of HONOR in your relationship

 It means not putting him down when you disagree as so many women often do.. It means not talking badly about him to your friends or family. It means not browbeating him when asking him to do something. It means not assuming he will do the wrong thing.


A woman's  power is in her praise of her man, not in negativity, criticism and complaining.

Because this works both ways.

As soon as a man feels respected, he starts paying back by giving a woman adoration, love, care and better sex.  (Unless he is a jerk,impervious to respect or love or any of the like, of course. There are many of those, among women too. My suggestion to anyone : stay away from jerks, men and women alike)

So he gets more respect, she gets more love and care. And sex.

So she flourishes. And it shows.

It's a win-win situation

You might wonna try it some time