I'm sure you've heard of this one before.
''Be the real you''. ''Be authentic''.''Strive to be authentic'',or something along those lines.
Yeah,sure.Be the real me.I can do that,no biggie.I mean,everyone is their real selves,whether they want to or not.Our real self is evident in all our words,actions,thoughts,facial expressions,body posture,in every single thing we do or don't do.We just can't help it.We are always our real selves.It doesn't take any effort on our part.Even if we actually pretend to be something else,people are quick to detect our bullshit,so after a while we have to drop it and be the real us again.
Sometimes even being our real selves seems to require too much of an effort,because we'd rather be our 'lower',bad,shadowy versions instead.It's so much easier being negative and pessimistic.We've all been there many times.
So if striving to be ourselves is not the answer,what is?
The answer is to try to be our 'wow' selves.
Wow self: It's your best self in your best moments,the one that can wow people hands down.
It doesn't REALLY take any effort on our part to be our true self.It's being our wow self that takes all we have.It's like a mental/emotional workout.And just like a physical workout
a/ it is rather challenging to begin with at first
b/ it gets easier with time
c/ it eventually becomes a habit if you keep at it long enough.
There are people,both off and online,that keep asking me how I manage to always stay positive,optimistic and happy in spite of the challenges of having a big family and a business to manage.
There is no secret really.All it takes is a decision.
Listen guys.Every morning when I wake up I get to face everyday challenges,same as everyone else.I get out of bed groaning because of all the chores I have to do,same as everyone else.I feel mentally and physically drained,same as practically everyone these days.The economic crisis,the news,the state of the world depresses me constantly,same as everyone else.Signs of aging in my physical body depress me even more,same as everyone else.Most of the days I'd rather stay in bed and complain about everything.Same as everyone else.
That's who my real self is.The boring,uninspiring me.
But hey,do you think I let that bitch control me?Hell no! I refuse to let her get hold of me and take over.I banish her first thing in the morning,before she grows any stronger and she's practically impossible to control.Each morning I look at myself in the mirror and the wow me,the Eirini I love,winks at me with that special glimmer in her eye.She tells me:''Today you can be either enthusiastic,passionate and ALIVE or a waste of space.Now you choose which is going to be''.
So I let her talk me into it.And then I become her.Just like that.That version of me is a wonderful combination of wonderful things.She's special and original and different,she's unique.She feels unlimited,trully passionate about everything and has wild imaginings.She believes in the impossible.She can turn the impossible into possible.She lives life to the fullest.She knows how to have fun.She radiates love,abundance and bliss.She's always optimistic and positive,even when facing big challenges.Her levels of energy are exeptionally hight.She's open to the idea of miracles.She loves making people feel great about themselves.She loves treating people like royalty because she sees God in all and each one of them.And she always follows the trail of happiness.
Yes,she is all those things.Even when I am not.She's the wow version of me that I constantly try to bring out.It's not always easy.But she's always there,waiting for my permission to take over.And when she does,all kinds of magic happen for me and everyone else around me.And I bet you can do that too.
Be the person you've always dreamed of being!Don't be yourself,be your wow self!That magical,awsome version of you that can create magical moments for other people around you.The people magnet!The miracle-maker that is you!
Love,peace and awsomeness
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