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Δευτέρα, 31 Αυγούστου 2015

Why you should never tell your kids to finish what's on their plate

Τhere is no way to beat about the bush around this one.

Dont force your kids to eat what they dont like, good people.\

Food is ,apart from necessary to sustain life, closely related to pleasure and love.

Can you think of anything else that is closely related to pleasure and love?

Right. Sex.

Teaching your kids to disregard their natural aversion to certain foods and forcing it down their stomach?
Same as teaching them that disregarding their natural instincts is ok if someone in authority tells them so. Also, that pleasure has nothing to do with food, but you have to gulp it down , no matter how disgusting it is.

Please, dont do that.

I am not judging anyone's parenting style here. Really , I am not. Strict or relaxed, that's another story.

But food, it's too important to teach discipline with. Let boundaries learning be done in other ways, there are countless of them.

Dont lay the foundations for a distorted, sick relationship with pleasure by forcing food down a very unwilling little stomack.

No, your kid is not doing it to spite you.
Have you ever tried swallowing something that doesnt agree with you?

Torture, right?
What makes you think then it is right to impose this on your child, out of a sense of 'respect for rules and how hard I've worked to prepare this'?

Nature gave us the perfect example of what our relationship with food should be like:

"Breastfeeding is an unsentimental metaphor for how love works, in a way. You don't decide how much to love — you respond to the beloved, and give with joy exactly as much as they want." ~Marni Jackson

Try making a baby suckle when they are full and not hungry..impossible. That's how love should work, never imposed, given freely and the beloved decides when, how and how much. The most pure and perfect model for love, given to us by God as a compass for later in life

Men, especially, who have breastfed to their heart's content, NEVER become rapists...because they model their sexual behavior after the fashion of how the first woman in their life gave them love: freely and as much and when they needed it.

Food = Pleasure+ Love

Let your kids decide how much and of what kind pleasure and love they need.

Their needs as individual as their fingerprint.

Don't spoil it for them

Pleas, dont

Because no big harm will come out of their not eating their greens.

But love and pleasure?

You bet they'll be needing to be able to enjoy that....

Τετάρτη, 26 Αυγούστου 2015

How to Steal Like a Real Artist

The idea, of course, along with most of quote pictures here, comes from Austin Keon's popular book,

 Every artist is influenced by what has been done before their time. If not by direct exposure, the information the artist is exposed to through other people, media, etc. influences them. We are all a product of our times and have the benefit of those who have walked similar paths we are now on. 


Here are some photo interpretation of mine inspired by popular photos online:
(mine is on the left)

We all borrow because it has all been done before and we are not the originators. To merely copy is to take an existing interpretation and not run away with it. To steal an idea is to take something of value and make it yours. To make an artistic element yours you have to interpret it your way with your own approach.

This cannot be done when you are merely copying the idea. When copying the idea you are just doing everything exactly like it was previously done. When you have done it your way you have used the element and not simply duplicated it. 

It is not required that you advance the element. You can go sideways and even backwards with the idea and you can be stealing the element and not copying it. On the contrary, when merely copying the element you have failed if you do not match the original.

Here are the rules of the game:

Τετάρτη, 19 Αυγούστου 2015

My recipe for staying and feeling hot and sexy

To me feeling sexy is the prerequisite for staying alive, passionate, juicy, happy

-So I like watching my figure and exercising
(or at least trying!  On a daily basis, I eat whatever I want, drink what i want,  but all with a degree of moderation)

-refuse to spend  time with people who complain about how old they feel, because they just pull me right down with them and make me feel old too

- take the time to plan wonderful things for the future instead of dwelling on what's missing from my life right now

-flirt with life- and men-,with all of what life has to offer. This makes me feel young, hopeful and desired and it shows in my face as well. 

- surround myself with lively, smart, fun and interesting people who adore being around me, and if they arent around offline, welcome them online
(that's you, guys! ;) )

- dress the way I feel MY real age to be, not what others tell   me about my 'age group'. If I feel 19, - and I regularly do, mind you- I keep that energy up and I feel like a teenager for as long as I feel like it.

- pay particular attention to teenagers, because their carefree energy of talking, moving and relating to life is exactly what I'm after on an energetic level. Whenever I'm around them, I soak in their energy and send them loving energy in exchange for it. Believe me, it works

-keep telling myself that I'm getting prettier and prettier
( even if I am not, it still makes me feel great about myself!) 

- treat myself regularly to wonderful little things, especially if they seem unnecessary and frivolous. This are my grounding and my stay young for eversecret, reall

-take time to make myself beautiful daily. I  can’t feel both haggard and worn down and fabulous at the same time. So I pose for selfies, because this makes me put in the extra effort. Guess what, it makes my day too

-Love. Lots and lots and lots.
Passionately, irrationaly and deliberately.
That's the greatest secret of them all

May you always feel the hottest commodity around!

Σάββατο, 18 Ιουλίου 2015

On self love

I have a knack for selfies.

I mean, I can make my body and face look fantastic
by just striking the right pose (what works for me is leaning forward a bit and twisting my torso for the right angle, also having light directly above me in front of a mirror)

But the thing is, 

my body is not nearly as perfect as it looks in my selfies.

And that's ok.

I tend to put weight from the waist down and my hips have grown wider from childbearing, my breasts are the breasts of a middle-aged woman that has breastfed four babies (and loved it) and my mretabolism has acquired the pace of a snail ever since I hit 40.

And that's ok.

I never pretend I had the perfect body

Then why do I pose for selfies?

I'll tell you why.

The sparkly eyes pics you see and the cute poses that make you smile (or not) are my way of letting go. We hold so much resentment about our bodies emotionally. Posing for selfies, then picking up the best to put up is releasing resentment. I no longer resent my body for not looking perfect and a cute selfie is my way to do that. It's my way of getting rid of the fears and judgement ( from myself mostly, but from others as well) that I have about my body buried deep inside. It's feeling cute and pretty and letting that radiate to the world (proof of that is that when I dont feel well, no matter what pose I strike or how many pics I take from all possible ankles, I still look like shit)

This is my way of self-love.

Maybe yours is different.

And that's ok.
For both of us, you and me.

The world thrives on diversity.

Another thing, too.
Yes, I do get positive comments and feedback when posing such pics-this is good, who doesnt like that?

But that's just the bonus.

The real thing, self fove, is never dependent on other people's opinion about our body ( anorexics are proof of that).

A beautiful self portrait is connecting to what I love about my body.

As I look cute in a pic, I learn to accept my feminine, sweet side.

As I pose for the camera, I learn to fearlessly express myself, not just through words, as most people do after a certain age, but through my body truth as well.

As I release tension for what I should look like, I release fear, frustration, sadness for not looking magazine-perfect. I learnt to surrender to what is AND love what is AND make the most of it through said selfies.

Can you think of a more perfect tool for self love?

It's accessible to everyone and this is one of my ways of feeling good about myself.

( My favorite, though, is lovemaking. When I open up to the one I love, to be filled by his love, strength and adoration of me and of what I am and give back the same. But that's another blogpost topic.)

Today is a beautiful day to feel beautiful.

Παρασκευή, 29 Μαΐου 2015

Seven secrets to looking younger and feeling better with each passing year

Lowering your biological age (how many days, weeks, months, years you’ve been on this planet) is not possible, but lowering the ‘relative’ age of your body or your physiological age) is easy and doable .

Why would you wonna do that?

Just because! No need to apologise for having a wish, a wish within you is all the reasons you need for doing it.
Feeling better?
Achieving goals?
All legit reasons for doing it.
No justification needed.

So you wonna look younger with each passing year?

Here are my tips, short, sweet and to the point:

1. Decide you're gonna be looking younger with each passing year

Yep, it's a decision, like any other you've ever taken. Somewhere along the way you decided that you're going to age (you've even decided on the exact rate of aging for you!) based on assumptions, prejudices, the media etc and now your body is following obediently that blueprint you're feeding to it. It's like a program running in a computer.

 You are the programmer. Not the computer itself. So change the program.

I keep affirming and reaffirming to myself;

''I am getting younger and fresher looking, 
physically, mentally and emotionally with each moon cycle''. 

For us women our period is a powerful rejuvenating mechanism. Take advantage of it. 

If you are not a woman, or past menopause, the same holds true for you. Your sexual organs hold an amazing rejuvenating power. They are the source of your life force, along with your heart. So they have the power to keep you young and rejuvenated and in perfect working order. Use them!

  2. Sleep more

No need for an explanation here. Even half an hour a day more sleep is going to make a great difference to how young you look. Cell growth and repair happens when you are asleep. So sleep more . Make it part of your self care routine. Dont feel guilty for being 'unproductive'. Sleep is cheaper, (actually, its frrreeeeee! ) than all those expensive treatments or supplements , procedures etc, so you're saving money in the long run!

 3. Do some weight training

The human body is meant to be symmetrical, and this is something we innately desire in the opposite sex. Over time, we tend to round our shoulders, hunch a bit, often in one side more than the other. This is one example of how an asymmetry can form, but there are many more. Since you are asking your body to look younger it’s always a good idea to re-align it with weight training. When your body posture becomes better through this, your body alignment changes as well ,and you look younger (among other health benefits you get!)

4. Change your attitude

Being younger is also an attitude. As people grow older they tend to become embittered, enraged, sarcastic and not at all flexible in their opinions. Believe me, it shows. And it's dead boring, aside from aging. Young people are playful, fun, relaxed and mostly great fun to be around. Drop sarcasm or bitterness, if only for a day. Voila! You got younger by a day!

Seriously, bitterness gives you fewer friends and harsh lines to your face. Just drop it whenever you remember. It's a habit like any other. And it can be changed with conscious effort.

5. Fall in love

Or fall back in love with your current partner. (Yes, its doable. Just wait for my upcoming book, Soulmate Manifestation). Love is the very same rejuvenating power that helps cell regrowth and even creates a human being, body and soul, from scratch. Love is real and palpable and visible in the physical as well as the spiritual realm. Use it to your advantage

6. Dont dress your age

Who decides on a dress appropriate code for each age???

Seriously, think about it.
Don't dress your age.

 Dress for your mood, dress for your love of life, dress for your inspiration, dress for your elation, dress for your celebration of life, dress for your uniqueness, dress for the sex you've just had or are about to have ( yes you will,eventually!), dress for your lust for more life. That's enough of guiding rules to set you on the right path. Do it for a day, dress for your mood and see what happens

7. Walk and move like a young person

What happened to your lust for life, to your brisk walk, to the spring in your step? Put it right back, consciously . Do it. It's like a smile that makes you instantly feel better. That youthful way of moving instantly alters your vibration to a feel-good vibe that is young and invigorating and instantly transforms your looks.

Here's to you getting younger with each passing day!