Here's how to make a woman, any woman, happy and immediately like you or even desire you:
Give women your total, absolute positive attention and you're half way to become a sexually charismatic male.
''But I am giving women my attention'', you're protesting. ''All the time.And it either doesn't work or it backfires.''
No you don't. The attention you, thew average male, are used to giving to women differes from the attention she needs as much as chalk from cheese
Most men simply don’t understand how important positive attention is to a woman, any woman, at any age.
Plus, they either dont do it right, or are easily put off by a woman's attitude and so they fail to give her what she needs most from them.
Let me explain.Women crave for positive attention from men. They crave to be looked at and admiredand oggled at, and appreciated and taken care of, even if they indignantly deny it, even if they believe it is politically incorrent to admit it, even if they rationally try to convince themselves it shouldn't be so.
It is ingrained in our genes to be noticed, to attract attention of the male.And although women seem to be fighting tooth and nail - especially in the workplace- for their right to be noticed for other positive qualities and not just their femininity, they need this kind of attention more than ever.
Why do women crave for male attention?
It's in our biology. Women are set up to receive a man's energy emotionally, spiritually,mentally and physically. Our bodies and minds and hearts are biologically designed to receive from a male. Procreation-wise, no receiving means no offspring for us. As women we are designed to be filled up with a man's energy and attention regularly . This is biology, not theory.
''Ok this is really a hard one for me to understand especially since I don't need a lot of attention'', said a male friend of mine when I pointed this out to him.
And he continued: ''I ’ll be the first to admit that I'm not the most attentive guy. I know that's something I'll have to work on. What I don't understand is why someone would need to have another person's attention so much to be fulfilled in a relationship.''
The answer is in the biological makeup of human nature. For women biologically hooking up with a man means giving birth and afterward nursing and nurturing a tiny dependent being who will need nurturing for the next 18 years.A woman's built-in "radar" therefore is seeking a man who will BE THERE to give love and support to both her and any offspring. She must feel secure enough to have sex with and rely on her man to be supportive during pregnancy and afterward.
And the gauging system she instinctively uses to make sure she will get that from a man is the quality and quantity of aman's attention she gets.Even in the age of birth control pills and contraceptives this holds true because a woman takes a big chance and risks her health, independence and future on a loving relationshipwith a man. She must make sure he will be there for her.
So what does giving a woman active attention mean?
Women crave male attention because it's a biological and subconscious need. So when you do give it to them, you stand out. You push their buttons in the most pleasant way possible. Actually even bitchiness in women stems from her anger of not getting any or enough of male attention. Behind anger is always fear. Fear of not getting enough of this kind of energy she craves and is biologically designed to receive.
Men are rarely good at providing a woman with this kind of attention. Most men think they are already giving women too much of their attention because the fair sex is always the focus of their minds and stares and jokes or phantasies.
But that is not at all the attention a woman needs or craves. The attention described above is passive and actually directed inwardly, towards men's minds or bodies, towards theworkings of their own inner world. It's passive and self centered. What women need and want is active attention.
If you are a man think about yourself for a moment and many of your guy friends. Most of them probably see a woman they'd like to meet and sit back saying "Wow, she's beautiful, Iwould love to get a piece of that", or "I' d do anything to be with her", or they fantasize about what they'd like to do with her but they rarely ever make a move!
You see, most men are in awe of women. They desire them, but fear her rejection. So they sit back and hope some woman will come along and fall on their lap so they can then lavish attention on her. Sadly, it rarely, if ever, works this way. So few men will actually be bold enough to approach a woman (especially one they dontn't know), strike up a conversation, and give her the attention she needs.
Lavishing active attention on a woman can give her the feeling she has been "Swept off her feet".
However, very few men can actually do this , either because of fear of rejection or because they have no clue what kind of attention a woman needs from them.
How can you give a woman positive attention?
Giving active attention to a woman means giving her the feeling that you cherish her.
What does the word "cherish" mean? The opposite of cherish is "to neglect." Some words you may find in the dictionary todefine cherish are: "to hold or treat as dear; to care for tenderly; giving affection, care, or to shelter something; treatingsomething as valuable; to nourish with care; to promote, increase, or strengthen; to foster a hope."
In other words, make her and her needs your focus of your undivided attention, even if it's for a short while at a time.
There is absolutely no bigger turn on that this energetic kind of attention for a woman. It gives her a warm, glowing feeling. It relaxes her. It makes her more receptive, more trusting, more sweet than you could ever imagine possible.
Aim to do exactly that with women. Cherish them. Pay attention to her needs, words, thoughts. Make her see with your words, actions and body language that you actually care for her as a whole and not as separate body parts that are to your liking!
If you teach yourself to do that on a consistent basis, all sorts of positive feedback from women will come pouring your way. They'll just show you how much they appreciate this Which, in turn, will boost your sexual confidence immensely. Which in turn, will boost your sexual charisma immensely.
Try it out for yourself. See if it works miracles or not.You can start by giving your full attention to ALL women. Admire their feminine charm ina tasteful, non-threatening but nevertheless confident and dauntless way.
I don’t care if she’s a gorgeous model or the girl at the supermarket till, your waitress or your soul mate –it doesn’t matter, accept all women from all walks of life.
Do it consistently so that it becomes second nature to you.Once you give women your energy of active attention (which really means cherishing their femininity itself), you will be very surprised how much positive feednack you'll be getting from them and how more sexually confident you'll be getting as a result from this.
Now I can almost hear the objections of some of you: ''If giving a woman active attention makes a man sexually charismatic, how come it's the'bad boy' type of man that always gets chicks swooning over him? Doesn't the opposite holdtrue? Doesn’t withholding attention from a woman make her crave more?''
It is true that some people confuse a “bad boy” quality with sexiness, because of the media stereotype and/or some real life experience that seems to point towards that direction.
But you see nothing could be further from the truth.The 'bad boy type ' man is not one that gives no or little attention to women, contrary to evidence of this. In fact, a 'bad boy' is someone who is master at offering to women tons of active attention.Except the attention he is is giving to them is of the negative kind.
Here is what I mean.The 'bad boy' guy usually does those two things: first, he starts off by offering women loads and loads of active attention such as the one described above, until the woman is hooked and addicted to it, then skillfully and artfullywithdraws it, stops giving it to her, until she is left trembling with the shakes for some more of the attention he got her addicted to, begging, demanding or or even humiliating herself to himto get some more.
Then he might give her some more positive or negative active attention-verbal and emotional abuse and the like included to it- and she, addicted and attention-starved as she is, reckons that even negative attention is better than no attention at all so she puts up with it. Until he cunningly withdraws his attention again and the vicious circle starts all over again.
So you see, the bad boy guy is a master manipulator of using a woman's need for active attention for his own twisted benefit. Although some women and especially younger and immature girls tend to date and fall for the bad boys in the beginning, women always prefer a guy who knows how to give a woman
positive active attention in the long run. Women eventually outgrow the bad boyphase. As fun and addictive bad boys may be with their negative positive attention games and what not, real men who know how to give to a woman the right kind of attention she craves for always finish first.
It is always the nice, sexy guys that capture our hearts in the end. They treat us right and know what kind of attention -and how much!- a woman really needs.The nice guys actually care about a woman's feelings, which is the biggest turn on there is.They are genuinely interested in women.
They are fiancés and husbands material.
Again, a word of caution:
Women enjoy being the focus of your attention but when you give them too muchattention, this is borderline obsessive or downright ridiculous.Think of attention, compliments, smiles and admiration like FIREWOOD. A little at a time is perfect, but if you put it all on at once, you’re going to burn the housedown and destroy everything.
When you re giving a woman too much attention constantly, you are communicating that you’re OBSESSED.
Learn to know the difference. BE DISCERNING.