There are two basic categories of people: jealous people and people who do not admit that they are jealous.
The third category belongs to the fortunate exceptions; these are so special people who rise much higher than the common limits, rare human beings permanently bathing in the divine light, to which jealousy already became an inactive term.
But it’s not about them our debate. It’s about you, about me, about all who have ever felt the unfortunate effects of this poisoned feeling.
What is such a lethal potion made of? Theoretically nobody knows the recipe.
Practically most of us are experts in making it: a strong sexual drive hidden behind love, an impressive dose of possession, the eternal comparison between you and the other and as much ignorance as it gets.
Facts about jealousy:
-We are positive that it’s not our way of thinking that makes us hurt but it’s the other one. Hence, two evil advantages at one strike. We pass our responsibility on their shoulder, which spares us of getting aware and into the problem, of transformation and, on the other hand, by blaming him/her we can emotionally manipulate him/her
- We do not take the beloved one as a free person, entitled to act as he may. We are more and more inventive to limit him/her, till we make him/her our slave. But thereby all we do is becoming ourselves the slaves of our wishes.
- Instead of living the present at maximum, we fear an uncertain future: what if he/she will go with somebody else? What if he/she will leave me? The present moment is destroyed by an awful fear: what will my lover do tomorrow?
THE REAL CAUSE OF JEALOUSY?
And when fear takes over, then love goes away.'
Jealousy, contrary to common belief, in NOT an indication of Love.
It is an indication of not enough love.
When we are really in love we feel like jumping with joy, hugging everybody, cheer out as much as we can. This contagious joy is the spontaneous scale of love.
But somewhere, sometime, we don’t know when, there was a mutation, a perversion of joy. These days we no longer are happy just when we love somebody, but also when we own somebody. It’s an unusual, perverse satisfaction. We are not happy that the other one exists, but that he/she is mine, with me.
This point shows quite soon in the history of a couple. First we don’t mind what our lover does. Weeks and months pass by and we suddenly get mad at hundreds of gestures. We become suspicious, contentious or jealous. These are plain signals that Possession is now directing our orchestra and we dance as it plays and love takes on a backstage role.
Ηow do you get rid of it?
There is no way but one.
You cannot drive away darkness.
You can only turn on the lights.
You cannot get rid of jealousy.
You can only LOVE MORE. Or just love.
Just feel love.
EVERY TIME YOU FEEL JEALOUSY RISING UP, JUST TURN ON YOUR MENTAL LOVE THERMOSTAT INSTEAD.
Focus on the love you feel for your lover. Focus on it, feel it rising up, overflowing, washing away all other sensations.
Think of all the reasons why you love him/her. All the admirable gifts he/she's been bringing into your life.
Dive into this divine feeling.
Let it imbue every inch of your being, let it purify you and uplift you as well.
To be positive to the end, you can see a divine message in jealousy; it means that there is not ENOUGH love .
Love that is enough drives away jealousy.
If only you let it