Dear Dad

Dear dad,

It’s been eons since I’ve seen you, or felt your arms around me, or had you comfort me. It’s everything that I miss. I miss you more than I can express here, some days like today more than my heart can comprehend. I feel like a part of me went away with you. I keep telling myself that you’re looking down on me, and I genuinely believe you are. They say time heals, but it doesn’t, not really. The wound is still raw, even though it’s been 26 years. I don’t think time EVER makes it any better.


You said you loved me when I was just a twinkle in Mum’s eye. You’re the best influence that I’ve ever had, and I love you more than anything. I miss you so much,dad. I wish I could see you again like last time, but I know that you’re somewhere sunny now, with gorgeous Greek waitresses serving you. I want you to save a space for me up there, dad, because there wouldn’t be a point to Heaven without you being in it. I hope you’re having fun up there.


Love and hugs
 Eirini

How to have the mood you want at any given moment

When there are many serious/unexpected/bad things happening in your life or you feel you are at a dead end/at the end of your tether or simply you are affected by the state our world is at nowadays,you can easily become overwhelmed by your feelings and emotions. We've all been there. On multiple occasions.

Now. Do you really want to be a slave to your emotions/moods?Do you?

Of course you don't. That's the reason why you are reading this,right?

I can help you. Seriously. Read on.

Before I get on with the plan,I feel I can almost hear your objections:

''But...but...I have no other choice than to feel like crap...I'm stuck...I'm paralyzed....There's nothing I can do to change it...You don't know what I've been through/going through...I can't help it really!''

Yes you can help it. How? Easily.

Instead of stewing in your own stew,actually get intelligent and get the hell out of that mood. 

You see,we always get to pick our mood. The only way it feels that you have no conrol over it is because you've been led to believe you have no control over it.

Here's how to go about it:

1.Tell yoursel positive thinking doesn't help

Whenever you are under the influence of paralyzingly strong emotions,positive thinking doesn't help. Nor does willpower.I mean,you would much rather feel better,but it's not like you can push a button and get back to the feeling great state.So stop beating yourself up for not snapping out of it. You can't.

2. Give yourself permission to feel bad for a while

The key word is for a while. Keep the pity party going on for a while..Tell yourself you are entitled to it. Wallow in it. But please keep it within a time limit. Like a couple a days. Or more,depending on the seriousness of the whole matter.

3. Write down the emotion you need to have

Be realistic,though. If you are at the throws of clinical depression don't try to reach elation in one go. Aim lower at first. Choose,say, contentment instead. So long it's a better altern ative to what you are experiencing at the moment,it's fine. 

Do write it down. No,not just in your head. Write down in detail what you'd like to experience: '' I am infectiously happy. I walk down the street beaming like I've just found out I won the lottery ticket.It affects everyone I get to interact with,friends,associates,clients,family members,social media interactions.,everyone is basking in it.''

4. Focus on the actual feeling you need to invoke

When you are ready to quit feeling like a loser, tell yourself: ''I am ready to quit feeling....

( insert negative feeling here) and start feeling (...eg, infectiously happy)''.

Say it like you mean it. Believe it. Pray if you need to. Sing it. Dance it. Say it again and again until it feels right.

I usually add to it a 'because' part. Like,''I'm ready to feel infectiously happy because I'm a Greek and I can do the impossible''. You choose your own justification.

5. Take action

Take up a small step of action that proves you're actually in the mood you are trying to invoke. For example,what would an infectiously happy person do? They'd smile at everyone,friends and strangers alike. They 'd sing in the bathroom,dance in the street, post happiness inspiring shit on their social media pages etc. Got my point?

6. Repeat

Do that for a whole day at least. See how it feels.

7. Avoid new triggers

Remove yourself from places,situations and people that might trigger the emotion you are trying to get rid of.

8. Yes,you might relapse

So what? Rinse and repeat the whole process.

I know what you're thinking at the moment. ''This looks like too much work''. Well, what's your alternative? Staying in your depressed mood? Take action. Follow those steps. They work. 

I promise.

                                        Love,peace and infectious happiness

                                                            Eirini

How to be hurt

Do you get hurt?

I rarely do. But when I do,I reeeeeeeeally do!

Seriously.

I'm the kind of person that prides herself in being full of compassion for others. (Or so they tell me).

Now being the compassionate type doesn't go well with getting hurt, does it.

Here's what I mean. You hurl an insult to my face? I laugh it off,because poor old you, it's not about me (oh yes it is,but that's another story),it's about you and your issues.You come to me with a mile-long list of stupid complaints about things that you personally hold me accountable for, that are not really my fault and beyond my power to change? I'll listen to your rantings forever, patiently nodding at each ridiculous claim. It's called compassion,right? (its called stupidity,in case you wondered). You are being blatantly unfair to me? Awww,baby,how hurt you are inside,vent as much as you want,I 'm here for ya! You are doing something which causes raised eyebrows and/or ridicule from others? I'll take your side behind your back,telling everyone how hard it is to be you and wouldn't they have done the same thing if they were in your shoes?

Yes, when shit happens I suck it all up and try honestly to not take things personally.

This method sucks. Big time.

Because it never allows me to fully experience my own bitterness and pain.
So part of it stays inside. Poisoning me. Weakening me. Making me less and less the person I'd like to be. The Wow me of my dreams.

Until one big thing happens.

A thing that forces you, really forces you, to come to grips with the ugly side of people and the fact that some of them are deliberately out there to hurt you,manipulate you,take advantage of you,ridicule you,devastate you. Not because you were randomly picked,oh no,that would be easy to deal with,but because your kindness and understanding,tolerance and loving nature was perceived as gullibility and naivety and weakness and a moral flaw that would make you an easy target for their amoral purposes. When,in the face of evidence to the opposite, you keep forgiving and trusting and sympathising with them,they translate your tolerance as stupidity and go on screwing you up even more.

Until one day that you catch them red-handed lying and deceiving you in the most blatant manner. In exchange for all the kindness and trust and openness of heart they received from you. No matter how hard you try,you can find no excuse for the pain they are causing you. Because you realise they did it for personal gain and for fucking you up.

Then there is no more hiding from it.You are hurt. Damn it,admit it. You are hurt and heart broken and devastated and what makes it even more unbearable is the fact that they most likely enjoy it reducing you to that state,because it probably was part of their initial plan.

It happened to me. And I could no longer hide under my compassionate nature because how can there be any room for compassion for the hypocrite who is being convicted because of hard evidence that they themselves throw at your face?

My first reaction was to do my thing: hide behind oblivion. Don't think about it. Forgive and forget.  Remove them from my life,yes,but at the same time ignore my feelings,hide my pain,forget about it,get on with my life.

Except I couldn't do that this time. Because there were no excuses,because the unfairness of it all, my compassionate nature just couldn't kick in. All that remained was the hurting part. And the resentment. And the anger.

This time I'll give in to it. I'm giving myself permission to experience it fully. To feel hurt and in pain,to feel red hot hatred in my veins for being unfairly and ungratefully taken advantage of. No new agey stuff about peace,light and love,not this time. This will probably come much much later,when the experience is no longer raw and bleeding. And even then,some parts of it won't go away .Ever.

So I'm having this inner dialogue of how I intend to shut down my facebook page,because it gave access to my stuff for a bunch of people who might be connected to the offending party .
I implore myself to reconsider.
-''Why?''
-Because interacting and sharing with like minded people makes you happy,girl,that's why!''
-''But I don't want those nasty people in my list. ''
-''Why not delete just those?''
-''Because I can't be really sure about who they are,I might be wrong.''
-''Can't you narrow down your list?''
-''Yes I can, but even if I do that I'd still have to delete a whole lot of web friends that have nothing to do with this nasty thing.''
-''Do it. It's called casualties in the war for your peace of mind.. Surely your peace of mind is more important than pleasing people who really don't care about you in the first place''.

So I did.

If you are one of the (104 to be precise) casualties and you had nothing to do with the whole nasty thing,my apologies. That's life. Shit happens. To the best of us.

If you are one of the handful that did have a lot to do with it,screw you. You can kiss my ass.

You need both

If there was a culture that combined in a harmonious way spirituality with sensuality, that was ancient Greek culture.

Ancient Greeks imagined their gods as being extremely erotic and sensual.They depicted most of them erect and full of desire or sensuously  bathing or undressing. And yet those very same gods were also the ones that would give humans clarity of mind and spiritual awakening at the same time.

You see, ancient Greeks knew only too well that if you isolate spirituality from sensuality,if you only pursue one to the exclusion of the other, you end up as a caricature.

Take sensuality If you are too focused on the physical,you have no vision,no ideas,no values. Everything becomes about the self and the needs of the self. Narcissism and intellectual short-sightedness is the inevitable outcome.Spiritual reflection can help you avoid this trap by encouraging you to focus on things other than yourself and your physical needs.

The reverse is also true The greatest danger in spiritual life is to lose contact with reality.Yοu might begin to believe in the most far-fetched things,become ungrounded and uncentered.What is more,if you take spirituality to the extreme you might become so hard on yourself or others in an attempt to be as 'pure' and 'spiritual' as possible that you can easily turn into an aggressive,mean and punitive version of you.

Those two extremes can be avoided by balancing spirituality with sensuality and vice versa.
Μηδέν άγαν'' means "nothing in excess" (the temple of Apollo at Delphi bore this inscription).


Sensuality and spirituality can and should work hand in hand . If you are a highly sensual person,a healthy dose of spirituality will tame and temper your obsession with the physical. If you are highly spiritual,a dose of sensuality will keep you grounded and relevant to this world.

                                                            


                                                   Love,peace and balance
                                                                  Eirini

Inner Child Suggestions

Besides daring to sing loudly where others can hear, have you ever dared to "think out loud" in public? Perhaps even start a long conversation with yourself? Here's how to go about it: just get a cellphone and an earphone set. Sit in the park or walk down the streetwith the cellphone in your lap and say anything you want, right out loud. Nobody will care. But you'll have fun!


Even better. Just wear a headset alone, but with the plug dangling loose in your lap. Passersby will assume that you have a cellphone. Of course there is always the possibility that one or two people will look more closely, realize that no cellphone is involved, then suddenly stop smiling. And back away from you carefully! 




See how it feels to be this free about the way you behave in public!

                                                     Love,peace and fun
                                                           
                                                             Eirini

I hate you because you are prettier than me

No one really talks about it, but one of the main issues preventing women from getting along with other women is jealousy. In the professional world especially, it breaks down to one of two things: jealousy over how good you are at what you do or jealousy over how good you look doing what you do.

Many of you reading this are probably already feeling an aversion to the topic—none of us likes to admit that other people are better looking than we are or, even worse, that we resent them for it. In fact, many of us don’t admit it, not even to ourselves. Instead, we channel the jealousy into resentment and let it lurk inside of us until the object of it does something that we can interpret maliciously—and then we hate them for that reason.

If you are on the receiving end of jealousy,the topic is still touchy,- it recognizes a problem that  you have always suspected existed, but have found difficult to address, for, how pompous it would be for you to say, "hey, I think the women hate me at work because I'm more attractive." Still,it's a sobering look at the harsh reality: Some women, if they feel threatened, will hurt you if they can, in any way they can.

Why are women jealous in the first place? Perhaps women are still socialized to think that their primary task in life is to get a mate, and the main thing that mates are looking for (so it may seem) is the most attractive woman around. Other women are therefore competition, even if logically a woman can recognize that she’s in a relationship or not actually interested in dating people at the moment herself or that there’s actually not a cash prize for being the best looking person around. Still, perhaps it’s experienced as a subtle insult to not receive attention directed at someone else, and the hurt of not being singled out finds an outlet in jealousy at the person who is singled out.

If you are experiencing this kind of attack, know that it is not your fault-  beyond being who and what you are.  The only way to stop those kinds of attacks is to diminish yourself, so such women don't feel threatened by your looks/desirability. But really,how sad and pathetic would that be? Why should you change the way you are just to adapt to the lack of self-esteem of other women?
 
Also, some beautiful women have self-esteem problems of their own. Only really confident people can act outside of a group, not bring any attention on them, and have no need for social interaction.NOBODY is perfect. So for what reason would a woman be jealous of another woman then? Doesn't she realise that that woman she's envying for her attractiveness might have another woman SHE envies for something else? Why can't we all realise nobody is luckier than anyone else?

  The world needs to come to terms with themselves that there are beautiful people (men and women) in it who possess more than their looks,who are also smart, kind, caring, creative and talented and learn to live with it or try to bring out in themselves what is good and not tear down the good looking of the world to make themselves feel better.

                                                               
                                                         Love,peace and beauty

                                                                         Eirini

The way you like your coffee

How do you like your cofee?

Freud claimed that the way we like our coffee to be is the way we like sex to be.

So,how do you like your coffe?

Sweet? Then you like tenderness in bed.

With milk? You enjoy being taken care of ,like a lttle kid.

Got the idea? Good!


If you dont like coffee,think of any other drink you enjoy




Here's how I like my coffee:

French,extra strong,extra sweet,no milk,with whipped cream and lots of extra cookies  ;)))

                                             
                                                          Love,peace and coffee

                                                                     Eirini

Impossible is Nothing

This is what they said:

"You ain't going nowhere, son. You ought to go back to driving a truck." --The Grand Ole Opry's Jim Denny to Elvis Presley, 1954

''Airplanes are interesting toys but of no military value." --Marechal Ferdinand Foch, Professor of Strategy, Ecole Superieure de Guerre.''

"The abdomen, the chest, and the brain will forever be shut from the intrusion of the wise and humane surgeon."
--Sir John Eric Ericksen, British surgeon, appointed Surgeon-Extraordinary to Queen Victoria 1873.

"Drill for oil? You mean drill into the ground to try and find oil? You're crazy!" --Drillers who Edwin L. Drake tried to enlist to his project to drill for oil in 1859

"Well-informed people know it is impossible to transmit the voice over wires and that were it possible to do so, the thing would be of no practical value."
--Boston Post, 1865

"Television won't last because people will soon get tired of staring at a plywood box every night." --Producer Darryl Zanuck, 20th Century Fox, 1946

"The wireless music box has no imaginable commercial value. Who would pay for a message sent to nobody in particular?" --David Sarnoff's associates in response to his urgings for investment in the radio in the 1920s.

"A rocket will never be able to leave the earth's atmosphere." --The New York Times, 1936

"Forget it. No Civil War picture ever made a nickel." 
- MGM executive, advising against investing in Gone With The Wind

"I think there is a world market for maybe five computers." -- IBM chairman Thomas Watson, 1943

 Don't listen to nay-sayers. Go on and do your thing.Yes,it is possible.No,they don't know best.You do.

The world is ready to bow to your awsomeness. 

                                          Impossible is nothing

                                                  Love,peace and creation fun

                                                                  

                                                                     Eirini

Reality Creation within a bad economy

 You create your reality in two ways: on a personal level and by being part of and contributing to the mass reality.

Your personal reality always overrides mass reality but they can often ride together on the same wave and more often than not mass reality influences individual reality. That is great if the world situation is stable and growing but when the world situation is as it is now, it may be negatively affecting your reality.

Although personal and mass reality creating can be hooked together, they do not have to be! Your personal reality will always override the mass one if you decide it to be so.  Keep this in mind the next time you turn on the news or read an article that tells you that whole countries are collapsing economically,companies are laying off, people are doing with less etc.

Ours is a shared reality but it does not have to be yours. If you are strong enough not to buy into this mass hysteria economic meltdown,which is  carefully crafted by bankers anyway, your personal reality can remain unaffected. You can clearly see that even though the world economic situation looks dire, there are always individuals that seem to be immune to these things and fare pretty well. These few have either consciously or unconsciously figured out that their personal reality does not have to be the same as the mass one. They create what they want and not what everyone else says they can. So remember this the next time you are confronted with a bleak mass world reality. You are the one in control and your personal reality can override the one everyone else is  part of.

How can you achieve that?

• Stop listening to every dark and bleak news broadcast or article on the situation.
  You need to detach yourself from this mass reality, if you want to take back your personal control. I am not saying live in dream land. But let's start to be selective at what you feed your mind these days. Keep what you feed yourself mentally positive . Watch some YouTube; there are some great uplifting videos there if you look for them. Read some good entertaining books. Or just think back in your mind to a time when things were better and you were doing well.
  
  
• Stop talking about all the bad things you see in the world! Let's not keep circulating this mass hysterical crap round and round. Again, I am not saying to pretend that things are OK when obviously they are not but you can certainly find more positive things to talk about.  It seems more enticing to talk about these things and be part of spreading the bad news, but realize that the spoken word is very powerful in effecting your personal reality. Let's face it, "the Creator" created the universe with a spoken word! That is powerful stuff . Let's use it more wisely

• Forget the numbers. If you are like most people you are looking at the money in and money out thing. That will get you into lots of trouble. Your reality can take what you have and make more of it , if you let it. If you over analyze the in and out of money it will just reinforce that you have less. Focus on what you want and need and you will see you get more out of the resources you already have.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 Please do not take this to mean borrowing more money on your credit card! That will not do at all. I am talking about a shift in the belief that you can and will make things work without having to rely on loans or getting further into debt.Your power to make changes in your reality is awesome; all you have to do is believe and work out a plan that your inspiration will craft for you. Be prepared to be amazed!

I believe in the power of the personal reality and because of it I have accomplished many many things that others said were not possible. I have been witness to many miracles which made me realize that everything is possible and nothing is out of the realm of possibility. So yes you can do this, you can rise above the current reality creating trend, if you so desire and apply yourself to it. 

To immediately put this law to work:

Identifly exactly what you want and be clear about it.It helps if you write it down.

Expect to receive what you asked for

Take some action towards your wish. Dont be too attached to the action itself,let your wish guide you towards any direction

Be grateful, as if you have already recieved what you wanted

Forget about it and go on to other stuff

                                               Love,peace and happy creation

                                                                    Eirini

Why we write

This is actually me in a French Nobility costume/Owcar Wilde pose all in one,on carnival day,some 11 years ago. And if you think the pictures do not match either the comment below or the title of this post,think twice!




''Because writing is amazing. Because writing that people read is double-plus amazing. Because writing – even the kind of blogging we do on the internet, that is always done under absurd time constraints – has the capacity to make people feel less alone. Because well chosen words can haul people back from the brink of immoral idiocy. Because I believe that words have the potential to make a difference.


 Sharing that implies a certain deluded self-confidence that your opinions and experiences of the world matter so much that they should be shared with a significant audience, but really, maybe everyone’s do.

Just don’t expect anyone to like them.''

                                                         Love,peace and self expression

                                                                        Eirini