Τετάρτη, 14 Μαρτίου 2012

I hate you because you are prettier than me








No one really talks about it, but one of the main issues preventing women from getting along with other women is jealousy. In the professional world especially, it breaks down to one of two things: jealousy over how good you are at what you do or jealousy over how good you look doing what you do.

Many of you reading this are probably already feeling an aversion to the topic—none of us likes to admit that other people are better looking than we are or, even worse, that we resent them for it. In fact, many of us don’t admit it, not even to ourselves. Instead, we channel the jealousy into resentment and let it lurk inside of us until the object of it does something that we can interpret maliciously—and then we hate them for that reason.

If you are on the receiving end of jealousy,the topic is still touchy,- it recognizes a problem that  you have always suspected existed, but have found difficult to address, for, how pompous it would be for you to say, "hey, I think the women hate me at work because I'm more attractive." Still,it's a sobering look at the harsh reality: Some women, if they feel threatened, will hurt you if they can, in any way they can.

Why are women jealous in the first place? Perhaps women are still socialized to think that their primary task in life is to get a mate, and the main thing that mates are looking for (so it may seem) is the most attractive woman around. Other women are therefore competition, even if logically a woman can recognize that she’s in a relationship or not actually interested in dating people at the moment herself or that there’s actually not a cash prize for being the best looking person around. Still, perhaps it’s experienced as a subtle insult to not receive attention directed at someone else, and the hurt of not being singled out finds an outlet in jealousy at the person who is singled out.

If you are experiencing this kind of attack, know that it is not your fault-  beyond being who and what you are.  The only way to stop those kinds of attacks is to diminish yourself, so such women don't feel threatened by your looks/desirability. But really,how sad and pathetic would that be? Why should you change the way you are just to adapt to the lack of self-esteem of other women?
 
Also, some beautiful women have self-esteem problems of their own. Only really confident people can act outside of a group, not bring any attention on them, and have no need for social interaction.NOBODY is perfect. So for what reason would a woman be jealous of another woman then? Doesn't she realise that that woman she's envying for her attractiveness might have another woman SHE envies for something else? Why can't we all realise nobody is luckier than anyone else?

  The world needs to come to terms with themselves that there are beautiful people (men and women) in it who possess more than their looks,who are also smart, kind, caring, creative and talented and learn to live with it or try to bring out in themselves what is good and not tear down the good looking of the world to make themselves feel better.



                                                               
                                                         Love,peace and beauty

                                                                         Eirini






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