We've all been fed that lie.
The lie that each and everyone of us is totally and completely responsible for what happens to us all the time.
Our successes and failures?
All come down to how lazy or hard working you are.
(bullshit leftover from our school days).
Our happiness and misery?
All comes down to our own outlook on life.
(bullshit leftover from new age era)
It's not how horrible I am to you, raping you, stranggling you,
robbing you shitless, mentally abusing you, whatever,
it's how you choose to view my actions, so it's ultimately your fault really when you feel abused, hurt, etc.
Yes, all of it your fucking fault. No exception.
Even your accidents and mishaps.
Bad karma from previous lives.
(bullshit left over from buddhist dogma that isnt even part of your culture).
''if you fail it is because you didn't try hard enough.''
Yeah, tell me about it, notable example the way the economy goes. All my fault really. And yours.
If it fails, it's not because banks and corporations are greedy and scheming and manipulating the economy, it's people's fault.
I call this a big , fat, soul-degrading lie.
Success and failure in life is and can be dependent on individual effort and drive.
But it is also dependent on other, subtle and not-so-subtle forces.
Like, a drunked fuckhead crushing on your car on the highway.
Or a maliscious retard talking behind your back and setting off the wheels of nasty in motion, at work and elsewhere.
Or a greedy gang of politicians controlled by bankers controlled by corporations all over the world fucking up the world's economy.
Things happen. Good and bad.
Some of them are almost entirely your fucking fault.
Some of them almost totally earned by your hard work/efforts/dedication .
And most other stuff are a combination of the two: your own actions and the actions of some other force that interracted with yours.
No mantra-repetition, talisman-wearing, sage-burning or twice a day repetition of affirmations can change that.
And people, it's good to know.
You know, there are mainly two kinds of people in this world:
a/ the go getters, who believe everything is under their control( yeah, including you)
b/ the let-it-be-so-ers, who believe nothing is under their control
(and they baptise their laziness 'a laid back' attitude
The truth is always in the middle.
Take anything to extremes and you are bound to meet depression and gloom, because both ways ultimately lead there, in case you haven't noticed.
Here's the middle way:
Believing in our ability to achieve stuff and believing in our ability to handle whatever comes our way
is far more effective in dealing with life's challenges than believing that every outcome is solely dependent on us.
You are not the sole determinant of your fate
( think external forces).
But you are the most important contributor.
And even if your life's scenario is actually not entirely written by you, you can always enjoy the acting so much that it actually becomes irrelevant whether you're the only writer in the team.
Don't be a controling freak.
The magic of life is unpredictability.