Survivor

Being emotionally abused regularly by someone is agonizing.

Here is what emotional abuse feels like:

Someone
-Monitors (or tries to monitor) what you're doing all the time
-Yells, swears at you, insults you or calls you names all the time
-Unfairly accuses you of imaginary wrongdoings
-Prevents or discourages you from seeing friends or family
-Tries to stop you from going to work or to your obligations
-Gets angry in a way that is frightening to you, threatening you with physical viloence
-Controls or tries to control how you spend your money, but he will never accept any similar control over his, goes through your things regularly, hacks into your online accounts and mocks you about any interaction you have with other people
-Humiliates you in front of others, especially your kids
-Threatens to hurt you or people or pets you care about
-Says things like, "If I can't have you then no one can'' and ''Ι'll never let you be happy again''
-Decides things for you that you should decide (like what to wear or eat or not eat)
-Tells you they are happy when a relative or pet dies, because you deserve it and more harm will come to you if you don't repent and do as they dictate to you
-Wakes you up in the middle of the night, yelling at you for some real or perceived shortcoming of yours they've just discovered
-Blames you for the emotional abuse you receive from them

The obvious question, of course, is :
"Why are you taking this?"

The answer, apart from the practical reasons, is always one:

This kind of abuse changes you. Over time, the verbal abuse slowly chips away at your self-esteem or even your discerning powers. You fall into a pit of inertia and sluggishness where nothing seems ever possible. It damages your psyche, like bullets against armor. You are slowly groomed and brain washed into believing what they want you to believe in order to continue the abuse: to feel there is no way out.

That is the common ground in all kinds of emotional abuse.

Feeling that there is NO way out
(for a gazillion reasons).

There is a way out
and
IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT!!!!!!!

If you are being abused by your partner, you may feel confused, afraid, angry and/or trapped. All of these emotions are normal responses to abuse. You may also blame yourself for what is happening. But no matter what others might say, you are never responsible for your partner’s abusive actions. Abuse is not caused by stress, anger, or provocation or, as some might allude , by too much love.

It is always a choice to be abusive.

As it is always your choice to leave.

Please ask for help
and 

LEAVE NOW!

My name is Eirini 
and I am an emotional abuse ( spanning over more than two decades) survivor.

I have been through each and every item on the above emotional abuse list
repeatedly and constantly and relentlessly

but I survived
and found love 
and thrived
and will continue to thrive and love.

And this is me coming out

in the hopes of helping people, especially women, like me

How To Turn On A Woman's Vulnerable and Sweet Side

My best friend of 26 years- we get to see each other every year or so since we live in different towns- is sitting across the table from me, over a cup of coffee. We are discussing men and women and communication problems and how one pasrtner's insensitive remarks make the other one withdraw and grow distant and indifferent and resentful and unapproachable. 

''You both need to remain vulnerable and keep communication channels open, or else small things put up big walls'', I tell him

''Yeah, I guess we need to sit down and talk things over'', he says.

''You do that'', I agree.''But before the big talk, I'll give you my recipe on How To Turn On A Woman's Vulnerable and Sweet Side.

''Really? And what's that?!'' he asks, intrigued.

Are you too, ready for it?

Eirini's Powrful Recipe on How To Turn On A Woman's Vulnerable and Sweet Side After a Fight??

Here goes.

Push her hard against a wall or a bed/couch/counter and tell her how you're turned on by her smell/tits/ass/whatever and how you're gonna fuck the living shit outta her, first passionately and furiously, then tenderly and slowly and how she's gonna love it.

Then do it. 

Fuck the living shit out of her.

Melt her resentment and walls with kisses. Preferably the hickie kind kisses.

No, it's not politically incorrect . Yes, she'll love it. She''ll treasure it .Might even talk about it with her best friend in ecstatic whispers.

Then have The Talk, if you feel like it ( You won't, but she will, so oblige , but only the day after, or else you'll spoil the afterglow)

A woman is her most receptive when she feels loved and desired.
Dont tell her, show her.
Then watch what happens

Note: the above recipe does not apply to:
a/ total strangers meeting for the first time
 ( this is called rape, dude and it'll end you up in court)
b/ men who've been total assholes to their women consistently and for a long time
( no banging can makes up for past intentional cruelty , in fact it might even make things worse)