A man in a committed relationship probably desires a woman's respect and to be honored by her even more than he wants to have sex with her.
Yeah, really. That much!
Given a choice between feeling unloved or feeling disrespected, three fourths of men will choose to feel unloved, according to surveys. Go figure! Three out of four men would rather feel unloved rather than disrespected or inadequate. Because if he feels disrespected, he feels unloved.
The truth is any man needs his woman's love for him expressed as respect and admiration in the same way that his woman need his love expressed through emotional intimacy and feeling listened to and cared for.
Dishonoring a man is a blow to his heart. It says to him, “I don’t love you” the same way not listening to a word a woman says is a blow to her heart and makes her feel unloved and unappreciated.
Definition for respect:'' holding in honor or esteem, to pay proper attention, and to show consideration for.''
“But you don’t know my man!” you say. “He can be such a pig-headed idiot sometimes. How am I supposec to show him the error of his ways?”
No, I don’t know your man or the details of his pig-headedness ,but I still insist that he deserves and needs your respect. And respect means trusting someone enough so as not to coerce, make or ask them to change EVER. Unless they specifically ask for it.
Because criticism is a subtle and not-so-subtle way of saying 'You need to change to fit my definition of what you should be like'. That's hardly the definition of 'respect'
Please pay attention to my choice of words. Respect does not mean submission like so many believe. A master-slave relationship, where one person has all the power.
Unconditional respect does not imply slavery, fake flattery, submission or unconditional agreement or endorsement, but it does imply that in all things and at all times you are to maintain an atmosphere of HONOR in your relationship.
It means not putting your man down when you disagree with him. It means not talking badly about him to your friends or family. It means not browbeating him when asking him to do something. It means not assuming he will do the wrong thing.
A couple's strength is in the praise and appreciation of each other, not in negativity, criticism and complaining.
Because this works both ways.
As soon as a man feels respected, he starts paying back by giving a woman adoration, love, care. And breathtaking sex. Of the kind that she could only dream it existed in sleazy novels. Yeah, that good! (Unless he is a jerk, impervious to respect or love or any of the like, of course. There are many of those, among women too. My suggestion to anyone : stay away from jerks, men and women alike)
So she flourishes. And it shows. And he is inspired to give more so she in turn has more reasons to appreciate.
It's a win-win situation
You might wonna try it some time