And by 'staying with you' much more is implied than their physical presence .All kids leave the nest eventually. But some never do psychologically.
If your kids reject , challenge or disapprove of your values, ideas, or even everything you hold true and dear, be HAPPY. It does not mean that you FAILED.On the contrary, it means that you succeeded as a mother, where most failed.
You see, any mother can give love, but it takes a great mother not just to love, not just to teach about values, but go beyond that and give her kids the love that is truly God-inspired: the freedom to her kids to challenge EVERYTHING that was given to them, to wreck it to pieces, if they must, her own ideas and values included, so that they create something TOTALLY NEW AND MORE BEAUTIFUL THAN WHAT CAME BEFORE THEM.
Progress in our human race comes only through furthering what knowledge was received from previous generations. But the only individuals capable of doing so are the ones that feel free to explore, challenge and even reject everything that is given to them, so that they can build everything anew, keeping only what feels right to them.
This is a tough thing to do for a mother. Because our instinct tells us to try to protect our kids, isnt that our job? And protecting means, as they are getting older, trying to give them guidelines that we think it is needed to keep our kids safe and happy.
So it takes guts and balls of steel to tell/show your kids that
''hey, that's what I believe and hold dear but you know what? It's totally ok for you to reject it. It's even totally ok to think I'm stupid or ignorant for believing what I believe, if that's what it takes for you to grow as a free mind that challenges
everything, because that's what I wanted for you in the first place. Be free, my kids, even
from me and my ideas. go into the future, where I cannot go and further humanity into something exquisitely beautiful that I am not even capable of envisioning.''
Homer used to say ''παυροι γαρ τοι παιδες πατρι πέλονται, οι πλειονες κακιοι, παυροι δε τε πατρος αρειους '',meaning very few children are the same as their father, most are worse, very few are better than their father''. I believe by
'very few' Homer meant those rare kids who are free to challenge everything their parents gave them and create anew.
Give your kids the rarest treasure there is in this world and all others: the gift of freedom to be themselves, even if that means rejecting everything you hold dear, for truly this is the way God loves us in this and all other worlds....